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What is Everyone's Body Shape Preference?
1 year ago · 8 · body image, +9
I've been wondering this a lot. What is the perfect body shape in people's eyes? Skinny? Large muscles? Curves? Long thick legs, skinny short ones? I've recently came back to school after the pandemic and the online school, and I've realized I feel very insecure about my body. Thick legs, skinny upper body. A lot of people are skinny in my school. Most of them do sports, but a girl in my class doesn't do any sports but she's so skinny because she's so tall and her legs are so long. I'm jealous of people like her.
So do people not like skinny people like themselves? When I see a sporty, skinny boy in my class, I can't imagine them not liking their own body.
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Beauty is within the eye of the beholder. Most of the guys I’ve dated haven’t been skinny or chubby, but not necessarily ripped or muscular. The only muscular guy I ever dated was one of my exes who played (maybe he still does, idk) football. He is very tall, muscular and has a little set of abs, and he’s a big guy. Not necessarily weight wise but height wise. He is also very big boned. I saw him about three months ago and he looked like he had put on a little weight but that’s probably because he’s so big. Personally, I find bodies like his hot, but a little more ripped. I don’t really care about a guys body too much but I’d rather a strong manly guy.Reply
the perfect body is the one you actually feel comfortable with. You can be thin or fat, the only thing that matters is that you're happy in your own skin and can find someone attractive in theirs.Reply
Our bodies are all varied. We are all so unique. It's unfortunate that society tries to push what looks "good" and what "doesn't". Here's what I have to say; If your body is healthy, it's beautiful. If you're happy with your body, it's beautiful. If you have a large build, you're beautiful. If you're thin, you're beautiful. If you have a crooked nose or a strangely shaped torso, you're beautiful. If your skin has different patches of color or your ankles are large, you're beautiful. If you have a deformity or abnormality, you're beautiful. There is not a thing in this world that can take your individual beauty away, and loving your own beauty only makes it shine more. And, I promise, there will always be people out there who love how you look, absolutely love it. Beauty standards are so seriously harmful. Beauty is everywhere, in everything, and we all have it too.Reply
Thank you for telling me that no matter what, beauty can't be taken away.Reply
Thick legs and a skinny upper body doesn't sound bad at all to me. But then I am drawn to notice legs more than some guys I know.
I've met skinny people who hate to date other skinny people and others who only do so. I'm not one. But I can't personally just limit myself to one favorite body type. I see beauty in skinny girl's, thick girls and in girls who are considered fat, but not when it's clearly unhealthy. To me personally, unhealthy obesity is unattractive. But I have met guys , skinny guys, who are absolutely obsessed with dating very very big girls and will often shock me with the girls they find beautiful. So basically the world seems to confirm to me that the whole beauty is in the eye of the beholder thing is true. So everyone is going to have some unique idea of what's perfect. Like I said. I can hardly choose sometimes. But as a short guy taller girls never paid much attention to me, and I find myself influenced by that. As if life taught me to not be attracted to tall girls. But it's almost like I've just been taught to ignore it if there is an attraction because it's default hopeless.
One thing that I'm not into is muscles. I like girls who are athletic-skinny or athletic-thick, but that whole athletic, muscular thing just kind of turns me off. But again, this could be due to life experiencesReply
I see... Thank you for all this advice it's truly been really helpful!Reply
Some skinny people can experience body dysmorphia and self hatred, same as anyone else. Sometimes that’s why they’re skinny - because they’re scared of being a healthy weight.
Personally, I can see beauty in a wide range of body shapes. Muscles are impressive because of the dedication it takes to get them, bones catch light in an interesting way, fat is often soft and comforting and nice to touch and look at. Any combination of these is fine, any kind of fat/muscle distribution is ok.Reply
beauty is completely subjective. it is not a look you can get through dieting and surgery its an attitude, and you need to tell yourself that. i dont care if you think your nose is too big or your thighs are too fat, no one will want to be romantically involved with you if your perfect. the reason? you'll make them insecure. you want to be attractive, not intimidating. the more flaws you have, the more attractive and seductive you are because youll be a comfort. all of my crushes have been on "ugly" people. the overweight girl in my class with the shitty dyed hair and big ass nose with small lips. jamia nestor (look her up she's literally mommy i love her so much.) the girl on cross country with glasses and homeade haircut. the chubby mexican girl whos really bad at makeup. the skin n bones horse girl with severe chronic acne. i found them all attractive bc they made me feel better about myself. i found them attractive because they felt they were attractive. its all about attitude and embracing your insecurities. i have a dorsal hump and and overbite and i was voted the hottest in my school 😭 youre beautiful hunReply