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Need advice on aggression
1 year ago · 7 · Stress, +3
My brother was diagnosed with autism when he was about 2 years old and now in his early 20s. He is the functional, can communicate well, very sweet and helpful but very aggressive when he gets upset. When he was younger, we could still tolerate his aggression and tantrums but now that he is already an adult, we cannot restrain him nor talk him out of his anger (he is at least 198 lbs and stands at about 6 feet). His outbursts would mean someone in the family may get physically hurt or he would run off somewhere to calm himself. Sometimes, we would search for him for hours because we do not know where he would go and fear that something might happen to him because he would just run off the house without bringing his phone or IDs. We tried talking to him about consulting a psychiatrist or therapist to help him deal with his anger problems but he gets all upset about it. We also suspect he has some degree of depression and anxiety too but we cannot know for sure until he gets to talk to the doctors. We do not know what to do or how we could help him. My greatest fear is when someone may get hurt because of this. I tried reading about autism in adults but there's too few of them out there. I just tried my luck here and hope someone could give any advice because I just run out of ideas.
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I don't know alot about autism. I do know they need safe spaces and everything the same. They're not good with change. On a good day maybe try getting to open up about what they feel. I think you have to gently approach them.Reply
Thanks! Will do that 🙂Reply
Try to get him to talk to the doctor about his aggressive behaviour and hopefully the doctor will refer him to a therapist or psychiatrist and either one of these will show him how to calm his feelings quickly.Reply
That is what we're really looking forward to. I just hope he would soon agree at doing it. Thank you!Reply
My cousin is the same. He is now an adult and just last week threw a table at his Mum and called the police on her. Adults with austism need routine and with the pandemic alot of that routine has likely gone out of the window which has made things worse. My advice would be to talk to family and friends about the behaviour and if you/your family are finding it difficult to cope have a look at what support is out there. My cousin lives in supported accommodation they are teaching him life skills and they've also managed to get him a job working for a hospital. Getting him into a routine and helping his life become more manageable would help you. But also you need restbite from the situation are there any charities who can help you? Have a look on the web there should be some help out there, which may help you to feel like your not alone in this situation.Reply
I hope his mom is okay. But yeah, my brother shows the same aggression. Threw a couch at me. But thanks for sharing this. Our family has some kind of stigma with supported accommodations and does not see it as an option but maybe it is really high time to explore it. Thanks a lot! 🙂Reply
He is the blessed one. And has a very loving family for sure. I have some sort of experience on this, its not a clinical treatment but has been found very helpful in several cases. Please consult the doctor in your jurisdiction before applying this method. CBD oil treatment and meditation.Reply