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It happened again...
I was working today on a Saturday, first thing he told me when he woke up is that he's tired and would want to nap when I'm away for work around the afternoon hours. Texted him around the afternoon and he didn't reply to me. Went onto Discord and found out that he and his friend are online. Messaged him there and asked him to look at his phone. Because whenever his friend is online, he forgets my existence and doesn't look at his phone at all.
Once again, his friend took his attention away and he didn't get to nap.
I asked him what he was doing and why isn't napping?
He told me that he's playing a game and that he's not tired at all.
Late afternoon hours around 5pm, he wanted to nap but then again, was told to go for dinner by his family. He ended up didn't nap again.
Past 8pm.. and I finally got home and have dinner. He told me that he would spend time with me. Played 1 of my favorite games, he probably got bored and asked me to switch to another game. Played another game and he didn't give his full attention, wouldn't stop yawning and said that he's tired.
Why am I being so sensitive about this?
Because he has pulled this trick on me many times in the past. Non stop yawning and tells me that he wants to go to sleep.
Have told me that he's very sleepy at 9pm.. and that he wanted to sleep.
Me, with my detective and high 6th senses, thought that.. Nah he's not going to bed.
Saw him go offline immediately, but then his friend's still online and then suddenly, launched into a game that they both play together. Sus much? Yes. It is also a multiplayer game and both of them would only play with each other whenever they're both around.
How do I know that his friend is not playing with other friends? Because his friend doesn't play with other friends and only plays with him. ONLY HIM.
Do I trust him? No. I try to... but I just cannot. I always feel like he's being dishonest with me. He asked me many times, why do you hate my friend so much?
I said.. "I do not hate your friend, how many times do I have to tell you that?"
He doesn't understand... what needs to be understood, what's important and what's least important.
His friend wants him to play games with him, OK, he joins immediately regardless if he's tired or not. Wouldn't even say anything to his friend and just suck it up.
Me? Every time, just there to take care and care for his health being.
If he's tired when spends time with me? Non stop yawning and tells me that he wants to sleep.
Alright, sometimes I feel extremely tired like this.
He thinks that he's given a lot to me.
Every time I try to bring up this subject about him and his friend, he would always try to be defensive and say to me
"So everything that I did for you doesn't matter?!"
me in my heart.. "what sort of thing did you do?"
whenever his friend asks him to play games with him online, they would spend the entire day together and he wouldn't even bother asking me what I'm doing for the day, just ignores me and enjoy with his friend. Just 2 grown men together. Sus?
Asked him what time he'll be done playing with his friend and his reply was "Dunno, no set timetable."
I'm like.. Ok? Can't you just, make your own timetable?
I requested him.. "Hey, can we have dinner together just you and I?"
Yea sure! Alright.. after dinner, goes back to his friend online again. For why?!
Every time I see his friend online or whenever he mentions his name,
for some reason my guts/senses just tell me that something isn't right.
I have no idea why, it's been like this for so long... and whenever I guess or think about something, it's always correct.
I'm so tired of it though.. (. _ . "')
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It sounds like he might be cheating, and he hates himself for it! Maybe try talking to him about how you feel (when he's in a good mood ofc) this will help a lot! If his friend is male, it might be because he is a closeted gay like myself and hates himself for it. Ask him (if you're comfortable with this ofc). Although this may be true he should not treat you like this hun, it sounds like you deserve the world that he sadly can not offer try and find yourself love be you, but if you truly love him stay and try and talk to him try one more time and if this attempt fails you know what you need to do! I'll keep you in my prayers and hope the best for you!
ReplyThank you so much dear 💖 I really appreciate your response and care!
I've asked him multiple times
"What is your relationship with him because I don't understand?!"
He got very defensive and said "we are just friends!!!! Why do you hate my friend?!"
It has been an on going issue and it has almost been this way for a year now. Talked to him about it and yet he doesn't understand my feelings. Always tried to switch the subject to guilt me instead and kept on saying that it's in my head and I'm the problem.
I can never talk about this subject with him because he'll get very defensive 🙄 I also forgot to mention that he and his friend has been this way for almost 10 years now
Replyyea thats toxic and defiantly sounds like his friend is more than friend break it off it may hurt but it will help you in so many ways!
ReplyHe puts his friend first which is causing a problem. He is selfish so tell him that unless he puts you first you will dump him.
ReplyHe puts his friend first which is causing a problem. He is selfish so tell him that unless he puts you first you will dump him.
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