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Anyone have tips on being more confident?
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Guys I just remembered how I was happy! Here is the secret its simple and works: whenever a negative thought comes to ur mind just stop thinking! Or do somethin...
You gotta know yourself more. And take care of it like a friend.
Instead of avoiding things that gives you discomfort- solve it so it no longer bothers you.
Thats how u get confident
ReplyIntroverts like me don't get much confidence in the social ambit, but if you live a lonely life and struggle with mental health I can recommend you that whenever you feel depressed or paralyzed confront your problems, or if you feel too much pressure leave it be; but whatever you do remember that you already have it, you already have the confidence in you necessary to live through this life.
ReplyRemember that it doesn't matter what other people think of you - only what you think of yourself. Do you like who you are? Then be yourself and be proud of it. Surrounding yourself with good people also helps.
Fake it 'till you make it. You won't always be confident, in fact in some social situations it can be easy to be pretty terrified, but if you look confident it'll help you feel more confident. So stand up straight, walk with purpose, smile.
ReplyBeing kind to yourself is key to building yourself up.
We all have a tendency to listen to our Inner Critic, to tell ourselves that our efforts aren't good enough, and that we're not meeting the expectations of others. We can really put ourselves down. We think being hard on ourselves will push us to be less rubbish, but it actually does the opposite, by draining our confidence.
To make ourselves confident, we have to flip this critical voice into an Inner Cheerleader.
Remind yourself that you are learning and growing every day. That the only person you have to compare yourself to is the person you were yesterday.
Set achievable goals for yourself, and tell yourself that you will reach them if you keep trying. Expand your goals a little every time, and if you don't always succeed, frame those as valuable learning experience. We can always do better the next time around, and we get more capable every time we try.
I've been listening to The Happiness Podcast recently, and finding Dr. Puff's episodes about overcoming Fear to be really useful in quelling those doubts and anxieties that can make even simple tasks seem impossible. I hope it might be useful to you, too.
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