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Please help me, how to confront my lying boyfriend? I'm currently trembling, because last night he told me they went to a family's reunion and then came home at around 3am. This morning, my phone keeps beeping it was messages from his ig account which he forgot to log out. I don't usually look into his account because I respect his privacy but too much messages pushed the curiosity in me. I saw the videos of him at a idk bar? and he's with his friend and father. I don't if I'm just overreacting that's why I don't know how to tell me that i accidentally read the messages and learned that he lied last night. I mean he sent me sweet messages and told me that they were still in the reunion and yet during those time they're already at the bar. I don't know, I'm just starting to overthink things because I'm planning to go abroad and if he can't be honest in these situations I don't know if he's worth the trust. Please enlighten me if I'm wrong. I just really need to know other people's thought on this. I don't know what to feel.
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Idk I'm sure people want a drink after a reunion.
ReplyYes. I actually don't have an issue with him drinking. It's just that he lied to me.
ReplyHey there, maybe it's an innocent misunderstanding? Like the reunion was at a bar (mine was), and he forgot to mention that, so maybe you assumed the reunion would be at someone's house instead?
In any case, maybe you can casually bring up the subject. Just say "what did you do at the reunion?" like you're making normal conversation. Then see if he lies, if he says "oh we hung out at ---'s house all night." THAT's when you say "hey wait, I saw an ig post of you at a bar" and leave it at that... don't say anything but let him dig his own grave.
But honestly I think (hope) it's just a misunderstanding, and maybe he'll say "oh we met at a bar and hung out"
ReplyI was hoping the same but he already mentioned before going to the reunion that the event will be at his uncle's house and he even sent me a pictures.. it doesn't look a bar compared to the pics i saw on ig. And yeah, I just normally ask him and he kept on lying and now idk what to say to him anymore.
Replyomg that plain sucks. Especially if he keeps doing things like this. I think it's time to look for someone new. Liars will only hurt you :/
ReplyAsk him directly and calmly about the bar, tell him about the photos. And however this goes, do some introspection on your anxiety about this
ReplyI’d be more worried of WHY he feels he needs to lie to you.
Replyif he has to cover up going to a bar you have reason to believe he's doing things there you wouldn't like. and that maybe these lies are a regular occurence that you just didn't know about until now. sounds extremely suspicious. i don't know, it could be just me.
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