Do it for you

A concept that I've recently started understanding (and one that I wish I knew when I was younger) is that whatever you decide to do, you need to do it because YOU want to do it.

For example; I'm active in the gym. When I first started out I was really skinny. I wanted to gain muscle because I wanted to attract ladies, to be noticed. I gained muscle, but I'm still single. After looking at myself in the mirror, I then noticed that I'm pudgy in my abdominal region so I started working my abs (to no success by the way haha). I'm going to tie this all together I promise, but I have one more example.

I noticed that women also like men who are talented, so I bought a guitar and started playing, thinking I could learn overnight. Spoiler alert, I can't.

Upon looking inward at myself I realized something rather crucial. I was living, or rather trying to live a life that wasn't my own; one that centered upon how other people (possibly) wanted me to be.

In truth, I know that gaining weight is a part of being human. A lot of us go through it. For me, I don't really care if I have abs or not. If someone has a problem with the way that I look. Oh well. Now I go to the gym because I want to be strong. I want to be able to lift and move certain objects on my own. I want to improve my body The way I want to.

As far as the guitar goes. I'm still a beginner. I play clunky notes and constantly have to look at my fingers to see if I'm doing it right and, I-LOVE IT! I've never had so much fun struggling with something before. I do it because I want the talent. I want to play for myself and I want to take the time to be good at it for me.

I'm not saying that you shouldn't continue to self improve or do the things that you want to do, you should. But, whatever you decide to do, do it for you. Don't try to please people because it's your life. Even if you're in a relationship the last person you'll go to bed with, and the first person that you'll wake up to, is you