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Hello guys,
I need urgent help! ASAP! ROCKY! Today, I attempted to measure my own height using a tape measure. I concluded that I am around 5'-11". Yes, the embarrassing meme height. This presents a problem. Girls will not take guys below 6'-0" seriously (as evident by dating websites in which girls will disregard short men. I do believe everyone reserves a right for preferences and partner preferences is not what the problem is. But this has completely dissuaded me from using dating sites because if I am to be honest, which I strive to be, I will out myself as a 5'-11" manlet!?) But this problem is compounded by my appearance. Normally, looking younger would be an advantage, but because I am a guy, this does not work to my benefit. How do I know this? I know this because I joked in college that I was a 14 year old prodigy and my classmates, who did not know my age, thought I was being serious. This is the only real reason I can understand why girls are not interested in me, because I look like a kid!? It makes sense, it's illegal to date minors, so women will avoid me. Girls never approach me. I have not been really approached by a girl since high school (but those girls like to tease me, like bending over in the hallway so I would walk into them or they would poke my hips during class. But lots of guys probably had this happen to them, being pranked) So, bros, please help me. This is incredibly embarrassing and I imagine I will be made fun of (I received a troll comment on my previous writing- though for a different topic). Is there anything that I can do? I am opposed to body modifications, so I will under no condition receive any kind of surgery. Maybe I could grow facial hair or dress older? Right now, I go to the gym to get stronger, so maybe this too can help? Men should never open themselves to vulnerability, and I thus I write this anonymously. I need honest answers, and the answer is what I think it is, then so be it. Thanks to anyone who wants to help. All I really want is a girlfriend who shares interests with me and for someone to be with, as I am lonely.
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[AUTHOR'S EDIT]
When I said "If the answer is what I think it is, then so be it", I am referring to be alone forever. I forget to type the rest and I realize that was vaguely ominous. Sorry.
ReplyQuestion: why are you asking men only, a little sexist in my opinion.
You didn’t ask for a woman’s opinion but I shall give it anyway.
Background: I am a 33 year old female, 4’11. I still get asked for my ID when buying a lottery ticket. I look very very young.
5’11 is by no means short for a man. That is tall. I met my husband on a dating site and he is 5’8. Height doesn’t and didn’t really factor into the equation, nor did any part of his appearance. I wanted to be in a relationship with someone I could be friends with, it didn’t matter about anything else.
Personally, (I could be wrong?) I think you are looking to attract the wrong kind of woman. There ARE women out there who don’t care how tall or short you are, who don’t care if you sport a baby face. They don’t look like supermodels, which seems to be what everyone wants these days. However, they have character in abundance and will love you for who you are, not what you could be with drastic changes made to your appearance.
However, beards and chest hair. A beard will always make a man look older, as will slighter longer hair. Chest hair makes men look older because it’s synonymous with manliness.
Failing that, find yourself a short woman. Everyone is a giant to them, trust me. And us super shorties always look younger than we actually are. We don’t have supermodel legs and actually look like a child playing dress up when we wear high heels.. but.. we go through the same as you.
ReplyThank you for your answer. To answer your question, I did not intend to exclusively ask men, I just use the word bro a lot, that's all.
ReplyI see :)
We’ll grow that beard, that will make you look older and from one woman’s perspective - there’s nothing more attractive than a beard.
Try online dating, but also try the more conventional way of dating. Think about what you like to do, you like reading? Go to a library, there will be women there who like reading too.
You like hiking? Go hiking.
Swimming? Go swimming.
You will find like minded people in those places, you’ll probably meet people at the gym too. There may be someone already at the gym who’s noticed you.
Don’t be afraid of women, most of us wear far too much makeup to cover up how shallow and fickle we are on the inside. But there are some good ones and you’ll find a whole heap of them.
So bro, start living. Go find your girl.
ReplyMan just date other women. I’m 5 flat and I’ve dated men 5’6” to 6’6”. The only thing that mattered to me was how good they were. Men SHOULD open themselves up. You’re afraid of faceless women you don’t even know exist. Go find a club for your interests and see what happens
ReplyI would try and date, but I have never before. So it's like a perpetual cycle. I am in college, but I will soon be graduating and I realize that now might be a good time to find someone. But how, I'm not too certain.
Replymy bf is 5'-9" plus have a baby face which makes him look super cute. i am 5'-6"and i think we look good and you are 5'-11" that's a good height .Dating is not only about physical appearance ,its reliability compatibility but if you are looking for hookup kind of thing than just a confidence and good sense of humor can do magic
ReplyWtf? I nearly married a guy who was 5' 10". He was exactly average height.
5'11 is a perfectly normal height to be.
If anything puts people off, it's probably low self esteem and insecurity. You're convinced people are going to make fun of you (are you sure the 'teasing' you got from those girls wasn't actually flirting?) so you're going to be defensive and uncomfortable around everyone you meet, until you learn to feel confident.
There is no way to make yourself 6'0" (except really noticeably big shoes), so time to learn to be OK with being 5'11".
Reply5' 11" is above average height for a male in the USA. Six feet is the height for males to aspire to, as it's tall, but not too tall. It lets their female partner wear heels and still be shorter than their boyforiend, which most women prefer to be, as do men, assuming the woman is average to a little above average height.
Reply"Men should never open themselves to vulnerability" Why only men?
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