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Still trying to get up the courage to reach out. To send that email.
I get the feeling that they're stressed (from everything I've heard) and I can almost always help ease that, just by reaching out and letting them know I care. I've done it before. It works.
But it's not my job anymore. I'm supposed to have moved on. It's not my role now to be the one to make their life brighter. We both know that. And I don't want to look like I'm pestering, or desperate for contact. I just want to make sure they're okay.
The ting is, I don't think anyone else has stepped into the role I used to have. And if I don't reach out, I don't think anyone else will.
I don't know what to do. I literally have the email drafted. I just don't know whether pressing 'send' would make everything better or worse between us.
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Think about your feelings not theirs. If you send it you will feel better.
ReplyI'll feel better if I get the sense that they appreciated it or it's helped. I'll feel worse if they reply in any way hinting that my email wasn't overly welcome...
But anyway, their feelings take priority.
ReplySorry - me again. Thank you for replying to me :) I really appreciate that!
ReplyIf they have pushed you away and told you that you no longer hold that role, then don't send the email. I do wonder how you know about how they feel though. But if they've told you that you're not that person anymore then leave them be. Unless itseems very high risk. You sound like you have a really good soul ❤️
ReplyDon’t send it, it isn’t your role and in all honesty humans take it upon themselves to intervene in others lives when they shouldn’t, however we’ll intentioned.
It’s a kind of inbuilt arrogance that we all seem to possess that WE have the ability to alleviate others conditions, we don’t and more often than not, the recipient of our good deeds feels obliged to make you feel better about your efforts when in fact, that’s just applying more pressure.
I would leave it, if they needed or wanted your support they would ask.
ReplyI would say do it. I know I had something happen and I'm stressed the fuck out and I don't have my person to send that type of thing to me. And I am in full anxiety
ReplyDont send it.
I am in your shoes in many ways. From the sender side and vice versus. The more time apart for both of you will help the other force themselves to improve/change.
You both want to live in the past, it hurts, but it is over. Use this time to grow as a person before anything else goes wrong. the other person will need to step up whether they want to or not to be better. And so will you.
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