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My sister just had an argument with my mum.
What about?
Well, we were going grocery shopping. And homegirl here waltzes down the stairs in at tank top and shorts. Nothing sketchy here.
EXCEPT - the top had straps so thin they were basically wires, it didn't cover her stomach completely, and her shorts didn't ever reach mid thigh.
Look, I truly, really donot care what anyone wears or doesn't wear. I just wanted nutella, for the love of god.
But mum, she lost it. She absolutely, completely, magnitude ten thousand earthquake lost it. If only Dad was at home at the time, the two of us would've had quite the time watching WW3. With popcorn perhaps.
First of all she went, and I quote, what exactly are you hoping to achieve by dressing like that, young lady?
The young lady in question goes, I like how I look in this. I want to wear it.
Mom : We're going to a grocery store, not a strip club
Sister, who now acts cheeky but will regret it later : We can stop by there later if you want. (I have to say, this was gold.)
Mom : What did you just say?
Sister (with eye roll for effect) :I SAID, we can stop by the strip club later if you want.
Ten seconds of stunned silence.
Mom (dramatically slamming handbag on the table. Audience, which is me, gasping and really wishing they had popcorn) : YOU ARE GOING TO GO UPSTAIRS AND PUT ON SOME DECENT CLOTHING RIGHT NOW! YOU ARE NOT STEPPING OUT OF THIS HOUSE IN A BLOODY BATHING SUIT! I HAVE TAUGHT YOU BETTER! YOUR ENTIRE BODY IS ON DISPLAY! DO YOU WANT EVERY SINGLE MAN ON THE STREET TO TURN AND STARE AT YOU? MY GOD, THAT IS SO INAPPROPRIATE! WHERE DID YOU EVEN BUY THAT?
(She didn't. Well, not the shorts. She cut a pair jeans till they reached that length.)
Sister : And why should some random men on the street decide what I can and can't wear? It is my freedom, my right to express who I am! I'm going in this, or I'm not going at all.
The result : She didn't go. I went with a very, very angry mum who kept mumbling under her breath the whole time.
Hey, atleast I got the nutella!
But, said argument did get me thinking : which side am I on?
Well, I do think that girls and women and, well, everyone should have the right to dress however they please. After all, clothing for many people happens to be a method of expression. They should be allowed to wear whatever feels right to them.
Also, women have every right to feel pretty. If a woman feels proud of her body then she should be allowed to show as much of it as she wants. A woman being confident in her own sexuality should not be, is not, a bad thing. If feeling sexy or attractive helps a woman be confident and happy, she should go for it.
At the same time, though - clothing is often a reflection of who the person is. I don't, or atleast try not to, judge people based on first sights, but the way someone dresses kind of gives away the way they think. If I saw a random girl wearing what my sister was wearing, the first thought in my head, despite all the feminism stuffed in there, would be - "Damn! That girl's showing a lot of skin!"
Your clothes show what's important to you. Such people show that they want to be attractive, that beauty is important to them, which is perfectly fine, but isn't there a time and place for such things? WHO in their right mind would wear a minidress to a GROCERY STORE? There are places to mingle, places to search for 'sexual endeavours' (I don't like saying hookup, okay? I'm seventeen!) and places where work gets done. In professional places, dressing should be free within reason.
You know what, screw this. Confisticate all the clothes in the entire world and everyone wear hazmat suits. There. Debate over.
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Absolutely agree! I'm female and, like you, I see both sides of the debate. So clearly, hazmat suits are our best bet. XD
ReplyWell let's do it, I'm getting my hazmat suits!
ReplySo, the problem is: men. Men are, by design, visual creatures. And women instinctively dress in a way that attracts men, so as to put a spell over them. Everyone likes power, and women feel powerful when men give them "the gaze". Unfortunately, it's misguided, because men are lusting, and lust is a sin. A woman should not validate herself based on the lust of men. And let's not even get into how many perverts there are that will rape a woman to give her "what she asked for". Bottom line - women dressing in a provocative manner is playing with fire, and when you play with fire - sooner or later you will get burned. Best of luck.
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1 Thessalonians 5:11
Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.
Mark 12:28-31
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Love God first and foremost.
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From following or not following these, all good or evil cascades, respectively.
ReplyThat's the thing! Exactly! While dressing should be free, and in a utopian world would be free, the world currently isn't perfect, and I would much rather cover up then get assaulted. I suppose it's a personal choice. Maybe dressing as such when you know you are capable of fighting off attackers is fine, but I'd rather just stick to normal clothes instead.
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