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1 year ago · · Stress,
I am writing this to ask for advice. I am 30years old woman. I am dating someone who I been friends with for 10years before mutually we develop feelings for one another. For 3 years we dated secretly and we are in LDR ... we are suppose to see each other for the first time this month after 3 years... but my parents dont like him coz his black and still in college while im asian, already well established and has my own bussiness. My delima is...my father tells me to tell the mam i am dating to not come here...even my mother support this coz they are worried that there future ...grandchildren will be bullied coz there father is a black american... here in the philippines black skin is consired poor or ugly . They want to avoid that situation so i told my bf i am breaking up with him . So my parents will be happy. I had stop communicating to him but my dad keep asking if im talking to him even when i. Not... he do not like the guy im dating coz he was looking at my window ease dropping amd saw me and my bf had intimate moments that is consinted by two adults he tells me... now my bf will think im less of a woman coz im easy ... so what ever my dad say he says his always rigth i know he loves me wants what is best for me so i broke up with my bf... my dad prefer i has short hair so i cut my long hair to make him happy and i pretend i am happy too.. he feels bad when i tell the hair stylish i want my hair short coz thats what dad likes and feels horrible after i follow what he tells me and tells me i should not blame him for my decisions.. coz if i dont follow what he wants he distant himself and make me feel i did something wrong.. i need advice what is a third persons view on my situation and how to handle this properly i want my parents to b3 happy....even if im not aslong as there happy im ok with that.. and maybe when im super old maybe i can love that man again.. he been so kind and understaning .. he still wanna see me coz i feel the same
Its just i dont know how to handle the situation propery to make everyone happy...