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Is it weird that my gf dated another girl who was 17 when they were 22-23. Then they started dating me at 23 when I was 18. I just turned 21 and I would NEVER date a 17 year old. My brother is 17 and the thought of that makes me sick. I honestly wouldn’t date an 18 year old. The older I get the more it bothers me. What do I do?
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I think it’s definitely unusual, but not necessarily weird…. after all the age difference is only 5-6 years and if you look at married (older) couples the age difference is often in that area. The unusual part is the younger one being 17 but I suppose if thats the legal age in your area then it’s accepted. I would say the weird part would be if your partner treats you like a child or tries to control/dominate you based on age “superiority” because that could be a worrying pattern. But in regard to fetishes, I don’t think it’s anything to worry about(?)
ReplyIt would bother me too. But what do you want at the end of this?
ReplyIf it bothers you then there's probably something to it. People that I've seen that date much younger than them, do it because they find younger easier to apease (because you're less confident and more submissive), they say it's coz younger is more fun but it's a lie. I think it's also from people who don't want to grow up or may be very shy themselves or not very emotionally developed so they don't see the difference. But if it makes you uncomfortable, you can't really fix that without just breaking up. You've been together for 3 years so think about why it makes you feel odd now. Is it just that you've grown up and realised or is it their behaviours or you just found out?
ReplyI've dated someone with a 6-year age gap. Yes, I was a similar age at the time (19 vs 25). It went ok, and I don't regret it, but being with someone who was already at a different life stage probably held me back from doing some imprtant formative development of my own (...shoulda done more drugs, lol).
I think the age gap can create a bit of a power dynamic, or raise the question of why someone doesn't prefer to date closer to their own age. In hindsight, even though I had confronted that in my own mind before starting the relationship and felt ok with it, it does feel a little weirder now, having viewed it from the other side. (I also have a younger sibling, and have concluded that teenagers are Icky).
If you feel strongly about it, that's valid.
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