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Me and my girlfriend have been dating for about 7 months (we’re both woman) I’m African American and she’s white
Today we were talking about Kanye and his recent controversy and disgusting remarks. She said “love the art hate the artist” about some song 07 I think . I said no he’s a terrible person and we shouldn’t support his art because it supports him. We move on whatever, but then later our friend group starts talking about the same thing we review the whole thing whatever. After she texts me saying she did appreciate me harassing her for listening to one song and that she should be able to listen to whatever she wants (I didn’t agree with her in the group chat and side with another friend). I told her I wasn’t angry about that instead about that specifically but the pathetic things she used to excuse racism of other artists. I then asked if my anger was scaring her sarcastically because I didn’t yell or harass her one bit. We went back and forth talking about how derogatory that was for her to assume I was just being dramatic even though she’s never even had to try and understand.
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I don't know how much effort you've invested into the relationship, but you might want to consider if you're in it for the long haul or if you'd rather be with someone who understands and supports you & the things you feel passionate about. In other words, if she can't respect how passionately you feel about racists, dump her. I would think that's one of those dealbreaker issues.
I'm a minority race also, and we feel racism differently. Privileged races can understand it conceptually, but it doesn't hit home until you've lived with it. However, most white people I've met are tremendously understanding and supportive. In fact, most white people I've met will overcompensate and be extra supportive when they see a minority person is being harassed or troubled by something. Your gf does not sound like one of those types of people. Maybe it's just because she feels like she knows you enough to be rude? That's a possibility. But it also looks like she just fundamentally refuses to accept how painful racism is.
And yes I agree with you, the idea of "love the art, hate the racist" is absurd. So I guess she would have no problem buying a Nazi lampshade made from concentration camp victims' skin? "Love the art, hate the racist?" Pfft.
Replywow that is so ignorant of her
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