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Today, I want to write about an important aspect of mental health & wellness I came to realize a few days ago. It is that, unless we deep dive to find the root cause and remove/solve it, everything else will just be a temporary quick fix until the problem comes right back. Of course, not everything in life comes within the bounds of our control. So, we obviously cannot change them. For example, I cannot change my parents, nationality or society I was born in.
Secondly, we must "want" this change to fix/improve our mental health. This is again intricately interlinked with the disease itself. Of course, our tendency to resist change certainly comes into play here. For example, the more depressed we feel, the lesser energetic or motivated we feel to treat our depression. Moreover, both our body & brain goes into a comfort zone, no matter how toxic this zone and how self harming it is! This comfort zone is "the" most dangerous of all comfort zones in this world cause it affects each & everything we do or be but internally. The external being may look like he or she is leading a completely normal life but internally, this comfort zone is wreaking havoc. It is this zone which perhaps pushed so many high performers and talented celebrities to take their life. When they realized that they are helpless and have forever lost the ability to come out of this toxic, harmful comfort zone, they decided to just get rid of the pain, once and for all.
In my personal experience, this comfort zone has many times lied just where I gave up. For example, house hunting to escape the toxic atmosphere at home (one which would have attracted the attention of any active CPS). I had given up just before finding the perfect house with a good landlord et all. Obviously, the halo effect sure came into play whereby my depression and hopelessness just told me to abandon this futile effort as the toxicity in my life was "meant to be". Combine that with my anxiety which told me that the anxiety triggered by the toxicity in my life is more "comfortable" than the unknown amount which would be caused after shifting to a new place alone. Most probably there would be no anxiety at all, having lived significantly out of home but my anxiety told me otherwise. Herein, I got enough first hand evidence of how it is always interconnected.
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Very inspiring and thanks for sharing your thoughts.
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