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One of the first questions you're going to be asked when you meet someone new as an adult will be "So, what do you do for work?" This will be in the first top 3 questions, guaranteed. It won't matter who you are as a person until later on. But first, you'll be judged on your career goals. Someone who answers, "I'm a lawyer" sets a different tone than someone who responds, "I'm a Doordash driver". People will be curious about your life as a legal professional. They'll have all kinds of questions and if you're on a date, you'll start to look promising. It won't matter if both the lawyer and driver love animals, volunteer on the weekends, want children, or have a passion for change. All of that comes later. This is frustrating, yes. You might even feel outrage at the thought. "THAT'S NOT TRUE AND YOU'RE SHALLOW AND ANYBODY WHO TRULY LOVES YOU WON'T CARE ABOUT YOUR JOB." Please reread what I said:
One of the first questions you will be asked will be about your job. This question sets the tone for where you're going in life and if you're the right fit for friendship or romance. It tells people something about who you are.
Two people ask you on a date. They are both good, honest, loving people. Their families are sweet. They both treat people kindly. They are beautiful inside and out in every way. The only difference is that one person is okay with being unemployed long term and has gotten comfortable living on government assistance in a bad part of town. The other is a doctor who works at a children's hospital and owns two dogs and a cute house by a lake. Which person creates that sparkle inside of you?
"BUT PEOPLE ARE MORE THAN JUST THEIR JOBS!"
That's absolutely true. People are not their jobs but the they are molded by the drive behind it.
Do with this what you will. I just wanted you to be prepared.
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I know someone who lives on government assistance and rents an old horrible run down government owned house. She is extremely lazy and thinks this is good. I am horrified with her. If she got a job she could move to better accommodation but she doesn't care.
As for meeting a doctor: they have an attitude that they are steps above everyone else.
ReplyDoctors have earned the attitude. Their entire adult lives are spent under the pressure of knowing more than the next person. They are expected to have all the answers. They literally save lives. You don't turn to a welfare recipient when you're dying. You call a doctor. They've got the attitude because they have to have it.
ReplyAgreed. As long as that expert power is not used coercively those with specialized knowledge earn an additional level of respect.
ReplyPassing this type of judgement is all about how the person will either be an asset or a liability to oneself. Love is no longer a part of the equation as its value does not rest upon reciprocity.
Replyit is why people date. trying to figure out who is worth their effort. it goes both ways. we all ask questions to screen out red flags.
as for me, i am a struggling single parent. potential partners see my baggage and lack of time.
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