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I lost weight and now husband is paranoid--advice? Opinions?
1 year ago · 2 · husband, +2 · Explicit
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I was going through a funk for a few months and needed to make a change. I got a haircut, joined a gym, lost 30 lbs, and picked up a hiking routine. I started eating healthy and taking supplements. I feel so much better and my funk is finally over.
Although I encourage my husband to make healthy changes, too, I never force him or bring things to his attention--after all, I made these changes for myself. He's joined me at the gym and on hikes a few times but neither one of us is a natural gym rat so he doesn't stick with it, which is perfectly fine because that's his choice. I enjoy cooking healthy meals but he hates what I make so I cook him his own dinner. He's a cheeseburger kind of guy and I'm a salmon with brown rice girl.
Anyway, he has started feeling self conscious about my new appearance. I spent 30 minutes reassuring him that he's still the wonderful man I am madly in love with. He's convinced I'm going to meet someone new because I lost weight. We've been married for 18 years and he's my best friend. We have regular sex, show affection everyday, and go on dates regularly. Literally nothing has changed other than my health choices and weight.
Advice? Opinions? Thoughts?
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Guys (myself included) can be very insecure at times and can overthink things. He might just be reading into it too much and overthinking why your lifestyle has changed. He probably thinks you wanna change for someone else. Im not sure what advice to give you besides giving him constant reassurance and showing him lots of love. I know those things help me when I get insecure in my relationship. Don't think that you're doing anything wrong, its just how some guys are wired and how some guys think. I hope the situation gets better, wish you nothing but the best :)
ReplyI take it he feels threatened by your weight loss and afraid he may lose you. I sense his insecurity. I'm not sure there's much more you can tell him to reassure him. Maybe in your communication with him you should tell him if I wanted another man Id be with another man but I don't I just want you. Maybe even make him breakfast in bed do stuff to make him feel special a little bit. To let him know you're not going to leave him. Maybe even suggest renewing your vows. Tell him he has nothing to worry about. I hope everything works out ok for you 2 I'm sure it will. Have a good day :)
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