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I recently got ghosted by a 45 year old, overweight single mother that I met on a dating site and figured I'd share my experience.
She gave me her phone number and we started texting and I really didn't expect much to happen since I'm very hesitant to be with someone who has baggage from previous relationship. In this case, two kids from two different fathers.
Well, I was taken by surprise by how down to earth and sweet she was. I decided to take the next step and talk to her over the phone. I immediately felt a connection with her. None of the conversation felt forced and we actually had a lot of fun getting to know each other.
So, I invited her on a date to watch a movie and have dinner. This was going to be my first date with someone that I met from a dating site. I tried many times, paying for these monthly packages that led to me sending so many messages, trying different approaches, and out of 6 months of trying, I only got two responses. And they led nowhere.
Anyway, getting back to the story. She seemed like a really good and genuine person. Even shared her personal photos from her workplace with me. Last Saturday, we talked over the phone and shared a thunderstorm together. I could just sense how content she felt.
We said our good nights and I went to bed not believing that I was falling for this woman. It felt very unreal and I was imagining how the date would play out. I was also imagining the scene of introducing her to my friends.
Sunday came around and I sent a good morning via text message. I figured she is a mother, after all, and I expected she may have been busy. I went to work and when 6 pm came around, I sent another message asking if she was ok. I continued working and at the end of my shift at 8 pm, there was still no reply.
I decided to give her a call because, at this point, I could feel something was wrong. Maybe a family emergency or she got sick. It went to her voicemail and I left her a message. 10 pm came around and still nothing. I decided to look at the dating site to see if she was still there and noticed that she blocked me. She actually blocked me.
Lesson learned. People are on dating sites to play mind games and that's all. I was too blind to see what was actually going on. Because I don't know anyone who met their significant other from a dating site.
I am even willing to bet that a good 90% of the women on dating sites are already with someone. But it's the other life when he's at work.
The average looking girls there are with someone but they love the attention. Only the less than average, you know the ones that look like men, might be actually single.
Nope, it's all one big mind game. They are there to pretend and give guys false hope. And laugh with their friends at how much fun it is to mess with someone.
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ReplyI'm not the original poster but I see you already have started your rebuttal in bad faith. Since you've already made an assumption to OPs character i'll make an unfair assumption to your character.
1. You are probably a white knight who believes women can do no wrong and always finds fault with men.
2. You are a woman.
I'm leaning towards #2.
ReplyHey anon,
Welcome to the modern world of online dating where your experience is not uncommon. Say there's a ratio of about 10 guys for everyone 1 woman on an online dating app. The odds are stacked against you and women have their pick of the litter. Not only that online profiles are very misleading and designed to paint a nice narrative.
I've been ghosted.
I've had women post pictures of themselves from their high school years online to show up to a date looking completely different.
I've had 'single' women bring their kids to the date hoping that I would feed them.
For every honest person looking to make a connection there's about 50 damaged individuals out there looking to be opportunistic.
It's highly unlikely you will make any meaningful connection through dating apps. Take this as a lesson learned, allow yourself to vent and get any anger out of your system, and look to meet and make connections with people in real life.
ReplyYou seem like a genuine person. It's best to try and meet a woman offline. Do it the old-fashioned way. It's worked that way for ever, long before the Internet.
ReplyThis 100%
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