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Girl's mind can be very wavering... In fact, many times I dont get to know what I want. This can be a boon or bane.
I am blessed in a way to have good parents, decent education, a job which pays enough for my survival. I had got this job when I got out of college, so everything seemed fine. I knew in few years parents will search for a guy from my community and I will get married. I was never worried about this, as I was always worried about my career. I wanted to study further, but could not figure out what to study(again wavering mind). As this was mentally exhausting, I decided to follow the crowd, that is to do my Master's in abroad. I had applied to few colleges and also got an admit. I told my parents about it and they outright rejected it as it would be very expensive. I tried convincing, but nothing helped. So left that path, continued to do my day job.
After this phase, I thought at least they would get me married and I could travel the world. It wasn't that simple... Turns out my dad wasn't ready to get me married. By now I was broken, because I neither had figured out what to do in my career nor my personal life.
There were many who joined along with me for that job. So I had plenty of friends there, and one among them was a guy who was pretty close to me. He was my good friend. At this point of time where I was clueless about my future, I was talking to this guy a lot. He was also going through some hard phase in his life. We just found solace by sharing things with each other. We became very close, and we became more than friends. I thought this feeling was momentary as he left the company for his higher studies. But to my surprise, our bond was stronger after he left the country.
Now comes the trouble! My parents have become serious about searching a guy for my marriage. I forgot to mention that my community is insanely obsessed with same community marriage. You are considered to be an outcast if you do not marry someone from the same caste. As you would have already guessed, the guy whom I like is not from my community. In fact there is no common language in which our families can talk!!!
I am very attached to my family, I usually dont oppose anything they say. I have told my mom about this guy and she obviously did not take it well. I am so confused that I do not know what to do next!!! If I have to list down the pros and cons of this relationship, here it goes:
Pros: He is smart, nice and loving person, good family, upper caste(which matters to my family and definitely not me), financially stable, well educated. I am pretty sure that if he belonged to my community, my family would be more than happy to see us together.
Cons: NOT SAME COMMUNITY AS MINE, not very good looking when compared to me (according to mom), younger than me (nobody knows this), no common language, insane level of cultural difference
I cant stop praying to god everyday to show me a path. If somebody can help me, please do.
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