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My dysphoria is so bad rn. Why cant I just be born a man? I hate my chest. I just wanna be male. I want to cry so bad. I hate being female. I just wanna chop my chest off. I hate being in this body.
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I'm sorry you're feeling that way. I've never had a conversation about this and I pray you don't take anything I say negatively because that is not my intention. But it's on my heart to reply. I do believe in Jesus Christ, and I believe we were made the way we were for a reason. Fearfully and wonderfully made. Changing that may not help you find purpose in life, you may change all these things about yourself and still be unhappy searching for something to fulfill a void in your heart and soul. Would you try to use your time differently than you are now? Start some hobbies that have caught your interest, start a fitness goal, read some books. Drop social media and the distraction it brings. Live intently on things you know are good for you. I know literature of this day and age there is a lot of books, articles, and movies on the subject of what it is to be a woman. Would you be open to explore some and see if it helps? I cannot begin to understand what you're going through, just some ideas and opinions that I hope help you find what you're searching for. I pray that you find love for yourself the way Jesus loves you.
ReplySorry if it comes off a lil mean, what you said is just rlly insensitive, even tho I understand thats not how you meant it.
1. I'm a minor, stop telling me some adult loves me thats weird.
2. I DONT CARE. STOP SHOVING YOUR RELIGION DOWN MY THROAT. I'M NOT GONNA TRY BEING ONE AGAIN.
3. You're right you dont understand what I am going through. Thats why this post WASNT for you.
4. You're acting like I dont have hobbies at all. Thats like saying I have no purpose in life wich is very insulting.
5. I dont have a void? I have everything I need, the only thing thats left is a flat chest, male private parts and supportive parents.
If your children ever come out to you as trans I srs recomend you not saying that cuz I promise you they wont like that. And then u end up never seeing them again once they r adults. I'm saying this as a child w unsupportive parents (they r 'not sees' tho, not christians) and this is whats gonna happen in a few years.
ReplyIt's not meant to be sensitive and it's not meant to be insensitive, you perceived it negatively. But no matter what someone offers for assistance or help you'll be negative because the devil has your mind and he will always pull you down as far as he can. Wake up and deny the devil. These things I recommend would change your life. What you're in a dark place mentally turn to Jesus you'll understand when you do.
ReplyI'm sorry, but this isn't a life for me. While I fully respect your beliefs, it's impossible to just start believing something.
Believe me, I tried believing in a religion before (this includes the bible). To example, I read about Lot's wife who turned to salt-
But believing in something, that made me genuinely uncomfortable.
Furthermore, there are reasons I don't believe god exists.
To example how he's portrayed as a loving, all-knowing and all-powerful guy.
If he's loving, then why doesn't he help the suffering people?
The suffering CHILDREN?
Is it all really some sick test?
He's described as a parent and no parent would do that if they really love their children.
Or is he unable to stop the suffering ? This would make him not all-powerful.
And if he's all-knowing, then he would've known that Satan was deceiving Eve?
He should've stopped this as an loving, all-powerful god, right?
Or at least... NOT punished Eve for being manipulated?
She LITERALLY didn't know the difference between good and bad, she didn't know what shame is or what BAD INTENTIONS are.
You wouldn't throw your child out of your home and strive them of all their possesions and pride because they ate something that you SPECIFICALLY forbid them to eat-
You, as a normal person should know that this just raises the curiousity, ESPECIALLY if you put it right in front of them and harming them in any way would be considered abuse.
And don't get me started on the whole "kill the first CHILD of every family" thing or the thing with DROWNING THE WHOLE WORLD because "oops they slept with angel and made giants also they're all evil"
And the thing god did to test the belief with OFFERING A CHILD, just to say that he didn't actually mean it? What kind of sick guy does that?
Either way, I'm happy without the bible and am living my life to it's fullest.
Keep yourself safe though.
ReplyI know a guy who got surgery to try to become female and he ended up having life threatening complications with the artificial vagina and now has permanent serious health problems. Of course, you are going the opposite way, to become more masculine…so it isn’t an exact comparison….but surgery and hormones have their risks for what you are considering, too. Looks aren’t everything. Why do you hate your chest? You could consider breast reduction surgery if the weight or size of your breasts is annoying. While you can change appearance, you can’t change your chromosomes and depending on what type of surgery you choose, you may lose the chance of being a biological mother if you later change your mind. I know what it is like to become unnattractive, after a severe illness and injury caused hair loss and weight gain and made me handicapped. But even though I am no longer attractive physically, people are still in general nice and respectful to me, and I can have happiness, despite not liking my body as much. I used to be an athlete, but now I can’t do what I used to. But, I have managed to maintain a positive attitude. You can enjoy so many things in life, even if you’re not happy with your body the way it is now. Perhaps you already do this, but if not, healthy eating and exercise are quite helpful. And as for your previous comment, English is somewhat limited in expressing appreciation, concern, and love…. In Spanish, for example, instead of using just ‘love’ you have the choices: te aprecio (casual, often used to someone you just met), te quiero (medium) , or te amo (strong or romantic). I’m pretty sure that the comment you received meant something along the lines of the first two. I truly hope you can still find happiness in a body you don’t totally like, as I have been able to. Service and focusing on others has helped me greatly to think less of my own problems. Te aprecio
ReplyBro dont try to make your problems mine. I am fckng hot, I would def do the devils tango w myself if I could. Just because you are ugly doesnt mean I am. Stop misgendering her too, who do you think you are? You're just disgusting, my chest is already small af cuz GUESS WHAT. I was underweigth for most of my life. And guess what! I still hate it because guess what! I AM A MAN. I will never be a mother. You have no idea what its like to be in a female body while you are a man. You dont have to make YOUR insecurities mine.
ReplyYou are lashing out at everyone who is trying to help, even if what they are saying is wrong to you. Everybody here has good intentions, even if we're all coming from different perspectives
ReplyMyabe that's slightly the problem, we all come in with our own perspectives and hence try to approximate other people's experiences with our own. I appreciate everyone has their own stories, but obviously those don't extend as a hard copy onto other people's. You can have many hobbies, or none at all, think you're attractive af or not at all, and still be trans. They're all different things, different problems or more experiences. It is quite insensitive to assume they work the same, because in doing so you tell someone to just 'deal with it' using a method that they may have tried or just doesn't work on their problem. All while implying transitioning is the WRONG method or solution to a problem they don't understand. There is a way to suggest these things while coming at it with an understanding of gender just being different to some people- it's a bit insulting to assume reading a book about womanhood will cure someone's dysphoria because trans people read!!! For the most part, trans men know what womanhood is, know of its variety, and also know it's just fundamentally not their experience (source? trans people). OP was a little aggressive about it but their anger is definitely not without reason.
ReplyI see you've watched a few videos and maybe read a few things, but God doesn't stop us from making our own decisions, and yes there is A LOT of suffering in the world. Could you imagine if every person gave up their selfish ambitions and cared for those children? God is our creator, he loves us. Abraham was following God's Guidance to sacrifice Isaac, and he cried and prayed over the whole course knowing that it was his only son and he didn't want to. Isaac was not sacrificed and Abraham was blessed for listening to God as Adam and Eve did not. God however sent his son Jesus to sacrifice his life to save us all. He was treated as if he committed every sin but did not commit a single one. He is the way. I have had a dark past. I have no answers to anything really, but I know true fulfillment in the heart is not of our outward appearance, not by the things we have, but by the faith in Jesus Christ. Read in the CSB bible James, then John. If you read even that much I know, something in your heart will be curious. I'll never act like I know all about life but I do know that. I pray you find Jesus, but only when you're ready.
ReplyHi, so I'd just like to say. I'm a female struggling with wanting to be a man (I'm a child so please take my argument with a grain of salt)
But you're being terriblly rude??? I get the struggle. I get crying yourself to sleep at night because you've got the body of someone different. I get not looking in the mirror because the person you see isn't you
But I found Jesus like the first post says. And like you I didn't realize I had a hole in my heart. I still don't want to be a biological mom. I still don't really wanna be a woman.
But I feel at ease now, not sobbing my eyes out anymore.
Please, don't be mean because other people don't see it. Because I do and I get it hurts.
But the people who don't see it I wouldn't wish this pain on, so you can't expect them to understand, and they weren't trying to force religion. They want to help buddy.
I wish you luck my guy, where ever you find yourself. And I hope before my life ends I get to hug you, because even if you don't need it, think of it as I do.
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