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Well, turns out he was arrested and never moved but now he's back and he said that if his relationship doesn't work out then me and him *might* get together because at lunch i was gonna tell him that i like him but he already knew and i'm honestly really happy and hope his relationship doesn't work out. Is that bad?? I'm not sure but i'm very happy and at this point i am in love with him. I broke up with the dude i was with cause i want to take a break but if the other dude says he wants to get with me i won't hesitate one bit to get with him.
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He’s um…telling you that if his relationship he’s already in doesn’t work out…*then* he “might” give you a try?
Idk I would feel insulted, tbh. He’s treating you like a second fiddle. Nobody wants to be second fiddle. But , I mean? There are some second-place girls out there, and they play that role and don’t mind it. I just can’t relate to that.
He’s saying a few things without saying them here. First, he’s assuming (pretty confidently, I might add) that if his relationship with first fiddle doesn’t work out, that you will be available for him to fiddle with. Why does he think that? He shouldn’t think that. If it was a priority to him, he needs to think that he should to act fast or risk losing the opportunity with you. So, idk. Personally, if it was me and the time came when he chucks that first girl to the side (and I said when and not if purposefully. because he sounds messy, and he’s gonna be tempted to try his luck at tapping that at some point) I would let him know it’s too late, even if I didn’t have anything actually going on.
Secondly, if he’s even having a conversation with you ABOUT possibly being together with you, then guess what? You’re just waiting for YOUR turn to play first fiddle while he has conversations with other women behind your back about when they can take YOUR place. Which naturally makes me go on to question: how many back-up fiddles does this guy have? If he’s comfortable being open to having at least 1, it’s safe to say his insurance probably extends a little further.
Something about this just rubs me the wrong way, and I don’t feel positively that this situation would really benefit you in the long run.
Now, all is not lost. If you just really think he’s hot and you wanna go carnal-only with him for recreational purposes, why not (After he’s single ofc - you don’t wanna be a side-ho piece)? But don’t get emotionally attached. Just do your thing how you do it and then avoid him like the plague.
And last, but nary the least…in the title words of one of my favorite movies - maybe he’s just not that into you, and he’s trying not to hurt your feelings?
Please don’t pursue this. I think you’ll just end up getting hurt. Choose someone who will put you in first place.
ReplyI really don't think that's the case, (btw i'm already emotionally attached) but i'll be careful.
ReplyOkay. Good luck with this.
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