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I have a classmate who is a misogynist and makes misogynistic remarks all the time. However, he's helpful in a way and ha's never really behaved "inappropriately" (I don't even know what that word symbolizes anymore). The other day, I was saying that we need to focus on our careers, and if I don't end up getting the job I wanted, then... before I could finish my sentence, he said, "You'll marry someone, won't you?" I didn't say anything because it's not the first time he said that. He'd be like, "You girls are lucky. You don't have to think about earning money and all. You can always find a rich boy, marry him, and do nothing for the rest of your life."
A few days ago, I was sharing my problems with him. Out of all the nice things he could have said, he chose to say that I can never ever get out of this situation, and I will always be stuck in this despite my hard work, and he can bet on this. He said all this while laughing like a maniac.
After that, I realized it was dumb to think I could find a good friend in him. After that incident I told him in a text that the reason I am not replying to any of his texts is that I don't like to make friends and I prefer to live alone, and that's who I am. I indirectly conveyed to him that what he said had made me feel bad. He responded by saying that it was a joke and he wouldn't have felt bad if I had said this to him. After realising that i might have hurt his feelings which he said I did, I told him it was all a hypothetical and i do think of him as my close friend which is a lie, I don't think him as my friend and I don't want him as my friend. After that i felt terrible because I did hurt him while he was in the worst time of his life, i could have put my words more nicely but i chose to be rude. He didn't stop making such remarks till now though.
What do I do? We are in the same class. I am not good at these things. I blocked him once and everyone judged me for that including the girls. They don't think that he's being wrong or anything, for them he is just an extroverted guy who talks much and cracks jokes. It will only make me look like a hypocrite if I block him now out of nowhere because after that incident i did pretend like I am his friend.
I know it was all my fault I should not have tried or pretend to be friends with him in the first place but now that I made a mistake how do I fix it?
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First of all make him clear that he's misogynist.These days every girl want to have a good career and working hard for it. Offcourse Their are some EXCEPTIONS.
And 'GIRLS ARE LUCKY' that's not true . They too have RESPONSIBILITY & DREAMS.
You keep working hard on yourself. And if anything HURTS that means it's WRONG.
Joke are supposed to make you LAUGH not UPSET.
Please understand he's GASLIGHTING you bu saying 'IT WAS A JOKE'. Not even in joke no one can say you'll stuck in same situation.
Although he might be at his lowest point in his life but can't make fun of others like this.
And please he has no right to be with YOU.
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