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My boyfriend has recently been expressing that he is upset about not being able to make friends with people our age. We are both in our early-mid 20's. He's introverted, socially awkward, and is childish. When I say childish I mean like, his humor, the way he talks/acts at times, etc. He acts like an adult when he needs to so it's never caused any problems. He is on the spectrum with ADHD so it makes it difficult for him and he isn't aware of how he acts.. I've never brought it up before because I don't want to come off as rude or hurt his feelings. Does anyone know how I could bring this up in a gentle way?
I want to add one more thing, I've noticed that when his mom is around he acts more immature than when not around her. She questions every little thing we do, judges every "adult" decision we make, and treats us like children. Since me and him have been dating I have stuck up for him soo much for the way she talks to him. I think I was able to help him be more aware of how she treats him as well. I don't want him to cut ties with her but I do think he needs a break from her. How do I even suggest this?
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Hmm, you're in a tricky situation. The only way he'll ever grow up is if he learns that his childish behavior is unacceptable. ADHD/autism isn't an excuse... it just means he has to work harder to pick up on social cues. But it sounds like his real problem is that he never learned to stand up on his own 2 legs. His domineering mother probably stunted his development. And this is the scary part, when you stand up for him, you're actually making him more timid because now he has another 'adult' to protect him.
Harsh as it seems, it sounds like the only thing that has an effect on him is when he's confronted harshly like his mother does. Maybe you can make it sound less insulting but he probably needs to be told that he's childish and he's the only one who can fix that.
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