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I have been in a very longterm relationship. Talked about marriage many years ago and he made it sound like we would get a house and get married and have a life togetherbut this was just talk as I never got a proper proposal. We don't live together. Now because of his family situation is finding that money will be tight and now wants me to move in with him. So why now. because it's convenient? There's so much more to this relationship that I have just basically ignored because I take care of my self and financials and his issues are not mine. He doesn't listen to any advice and procrastinates in important issues, including filing for taxes for more than 5 years now. I tried to help him with it but never provided me with the correct paper work to complete it. I told him to see a professional to get them completed. I'm feeling...actually I don't know how I feel about him wanting to live together at this point. I'm not going to be his mother or housekeeper there's no way. I do like to be alone for down time and do I can do what I want when I want and not answer to anyone. My children are grown and they are on their own. Both boys are in good relationships. I need the right words to describe how this is making me feel.
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well, I won't say my words are right but isn't he trying to mooch you off, and the right word might be you not getting mature vibes from him. As an individual, he should have some sense of prioritizing his tasks, especially you. he seems to be just talking and no game. It was his responsive nature that he wouldn't have a place to be now if he had handled his finances well this wouldn't be an issue, also he seems like a lazy man but not a productive type. I think you should consider asking him if he even knows what he wants to do in the future. Hope this helps. :)
ReplyOnce you move in together, comingle funds and present yourselves as a committed couple it is quite possible that you will be common law married, depending on the state you live in. His income tax situation sounds like tax evasion from an IRS standpoint, so be cautious because the IRS will seize assets of the marriage. But you sound conflicted, like it might be causing a sense of hopelessness, stress and anxiety. Best of luck.
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