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The Complexities of Infidelity (The Gray Areas Between The Cheated-Ons and The Cheaters)
5 months ago · 0 · Love advice · Explicit
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Infidelity is one of the most difficult issues to both understand and reconcile in relationships. Though understandably painful if recognized in our own surroundings, it is essential to recognize that there are different pieces to the puzzle surrounding fidelity, and the guilty parties may not always be so clear-cut in their roles. It becomes increasingly important to remember that there often exist shades of gray between the categories of the cheated-on and the cheater.
For context, the traditional definition of infidelity typically involves sexual and/or emotional involvement with someone other than the primary partner. This often conjures up images of outright betrayal and deceit; however, it is not always the case that one's intentions are so malicious. In many situations, there exist situations where a lack of fidelity may be an issue, yet casual glimpses of attraction, flirtation in-between committed couples, and limited contact with someone outside of the relationship may technically fulfill the category without any malicious intent.
In the same sense, the cheated-on is not always the unassuming party. Oftentimes, a lack of communication, respect, and affection within a committed relationship leads to strained connections, and the partner may look for the attention, validation, and love that they feel is lacking from elsewhere. This can lead to a sort of subconscious betrayal, in which they are not only not fulfilling their partner's expectations, but actively seeking emotional connection from outside sources.
Though initial thought might suggest that the cheated-on are only to sympathize with, and the cheaters only to condemn, that is too limiting of a view. It is important to recognize that often, there lies a complex game of give-and-take that leads to the gray Areas of infidelity, a place where definitive callback judgments cannot be made on either party. Though the consequences of infidelity may be universal, the roles of both the cheater and the cheated-on are not so linear, and it is essential to recognize the contours and nuances of individual situations in order to develop the whole picture.
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