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3 months ago · · Need Advice,
I do not know whether I am unreasonable or not.
Some years ago I started hanging out with some girls from my class and ended up becoming close friends till today. The last year though , me and one girl from the group (let's call her A) started observing a weird behaviour by our third friend ( B ) . We felt that she was trying to compete with us , jeopardise our relationships and underestimate our intelligence.
I never try to make someone feel inferior by broading about my achievents and capabilities , but I can't stand being considered an idiot by my best friend. She accuses me all the time about not being logical , while I am the only one from my friendgroup that is interested in philosophy ect so there are some things that I have studied and know better that her, she just can't admit it. I have caught her pretending to have read some books that I want to talk about , only to say that she found them 'dull and uninteresting' which of course tears apart my enthousiasm. Whenever there is an argument between us she will never admit that she is wrong ; she will analyse irrational contentions instead, until I fed up and leave.
As far as our relationships with boys are concerned , whenever me or friend A has a problem she will not be there to listen . If it happens to discuss it with her she will just give us some advice after judging our situation. When you have a friend you must be willing to help them when they have to deal with a problem , even if you think that it is unimportant. Showing up only to have fun and laugh is not a proper behaviour.
After me and A discussed this , I concluded that she might be jealous of us , because I am a straight A student and friend A is really pretty , while B has mediocre grades and her appearance is objectively not really appealing. I understand that she has insecurities and is aware of her situation , but it does not give her the right to project all her problems to us. I have tried to have a conversation with her but she wont listen. She always prioritises herself over everything and hasn't made a single sacrifice when it is needed.
Today I kind of got out of control (emotionally). Me , A and B participated in an school - related activity with some other classmates in order to raise money for a trip. Me and A wanted to be with the rest of the team ( there was a boy that I was interested in there too) but when we were asked if we would work with everybody else or just the three of us she started screaming in public that it would be better to split from the entire group in order to get our work done more efficiently. I understand her argument , but when me and A told that we wanted to stay with the rest of our class she continued screaming until we left. That incident was really embarassing. The result is that we ended up being unwanted by our own classmates , they did not count on us anymore. It was them and then us. The feeling of being 'unwanted' is so intense that led me get so annoyed with her. This is why I am here writing this text. I might have exagerated a bit (she has some good qualities) .. I just cant stand this anymore.
Stop being hanging with her is not an option , I don't want drama in this certain period of my life .. I thought I could ignore all of this , until it started affecting my relationships with other people. Noone likes her and she is always doing eccentric ( not in a good way) things.. She acts like she is better than everybody else .
I do not know what to do anymore.