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I just rant to them about stressful shit that happens, maybe I'm just too annoying to the point they give me an answer like that.
I've been having problems with my victim mentality roommate, everything needs to be about her, and she likes to paint me as the villain. This REALLY takes a toll on me. I just CAN'T stand her. I'm even having trouble sleeping. So I told my friend about it.
The FIRST ever time I talked to her about it. All she told me was "just stop thinking". I saw this as a sign saying "I don't want to deal with this shit". So I just let it go. But she's my closest friend in uni :'( sometimes when I'm just wayyy too stressed, I just talk to her by accident. And you can really see that she really doesn't want to deal with it. "just ignore, just block, ghost" how am I supposed to do all this when the person annoying me is my roommate? and thing is, we're in a room of 4 people. If two of us were 'fighting' the whole room would know, the tension would be high. Ironically, my friend's roommates fight all the time. She KNOWS what the tension feels like to the point she leaves the room every time they're fighting.
I know she's not a therapist. And I am aware that when I am in a state of distress, everything she says and do will probably be the wrong answer to me. I also know that she's not really responsible for my mental state. Which is why me feeling this way about her replies just makes me hate myself even more.
In my mind, all I want is for someone to lend me an ear, but at the same time, when the moment it is happening and that is exactly what she's doing, who's to say that it was the right answer I am looking for? The correct move?
I know it may seem like I'm writing this as if there's a right and wrong answer, but that's not what I'm trying to imply, I'm not saying my friend should have an answer sheet, I just don't have the words to explain it so I'm using analogies closer to what I am trying to achieve.
Anyways, since she doesn't want to deal with me, and I don't want to bother her, I'm trying to figure out ways on how I can just stop talking to her about shit like that. It'd be a win-win for both of us
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