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I feel like my life's getting all blurry. It's literally the first month of this year and there are just so many issues in my life right now. Fighting my porn addiction, academic pressure, social issues, a girl whom I like and I think she likes me as well. I'm drowning. And I don't know what to do.
Every morning, I wake up and realize all these responsibilities in my life, a million thoughts in my head. But then proceed to play video games for 6 hours straight and watch Netflix all day which makes me feel guilty as hell.
I don't know, I honestly don't know what's happening to me. I'm feeling trapped in my own head. I'm ruining my life myself, blaming myself, fighting myself, and failing myself.
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Why don't you go to school or work depending on your age? Playing games for 6 hours is no good for you at all. Why aren't you doing something else?
Replydeal with what makes you anxious.
ReplyAre you male? If you are, watch WheatWaffles and HonestWaffles on Youtube. It's Blackpill content. He shows you how to sort your life out as a young male.
ReplyI'm sorry to hear that, friend. I've experienced it too. It's quite difficult to fight against yourself.
I used to be addicted to porn sites and games. I can even not leave the room all day and play games all day. That's really hard, I know.
Many times I blocked the porn site and deleted the game application on my cellphone. It even crossed my mind to deliberately lose the cellphone at school. But thank God my parents love me. They confiscated my cellphone until now. And I think I have started to get rid of this addiction.
And in your case, addiction is a serious problem.
For now, satisfy yourself with what makes you addicted. Do it until you get bored and fed up (but I suggest you don't harm other people). If necessary, play all day.
And if you're truly satisfied,
it's TIME TO STOP !!!
Think about all the losses you have experienced while doing it all day long, think about the opportunities you have missed because of this addiction, also think about the people who love you.
You have to keep the source away (but don't intend to lose your cell phone like me above, okay? that might be very fatal). That way, you can be more productive. You can also list the good things you did. Stick it where you can see it. This can help you to focus on your goals.
Dirty thoughts will come if we are alone. So don't leave yourself alone all day. Try going out to a crowded place or socializing with other people.
That's all from me, good luck to you 😊
ReplyI think I feel and understand you. Currently, I'm unable to get my life together, I want to wake up early (like as early as 5am, stay awake and be productive- maybe work on my a (home) business I want to desperately start), but something comes up and I'm unable to (now a days it's because of my sleep). I can only advice you is that maybe organize and mange your time better, maybe try waking up early (I'm also trying and changing my sleeping habits now), YOU NEED TO STOP WATCHING PORN, think of porn and video games as they're CONSUMING YOUR TIME, in a NOT SO POSTIVE WAY, maybe get into community actives, go for walks in nature (if you enjoy it), trust me- there is SO MUCH TO DO, and SO MANY POSTIVE ACTIVIES OUT THERE you can enjoy, to live a happy, healthy and prosperous life :)
Stay blessed
ReplyAddiction is a distractant from a need for connection. Escapism is fear of a loss of control.
1) It's natural to need connection; crave intimacy; want to be seen and understood and loved.
2) It's natural to need stability; fear failure; crave control instead of navigating through unknown.
First, think about what types of people fit the following categories for you in the past:
- people who you could have light hearted fun with
- people who understood you and accepted all parts of you
- people who's opinion and advice you knew you could trust and depend on
- people who always checked on you even if a lot of time had passed.
When you have a list of names, figure out who you could still call up today to have light hearted fun with, deep yarns and ask for advice. Then check up on anyone you feel you "should". Building your support network can help you manage your stress, gain perspective and build clarity (eg direction instead of escapism/distractants).
Second, and maybe the most difficult because it takes time and regular input - practice radical acceptance. There's an old religious quote: grant me the patience to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can and wisdom to know the difference.
Wisdom? Comes from learning. Fastest way to learn? Making mistakes. Juggling a lot of different responsibilities can weigh heavy because that's a lot of things to worry about making mistakes with. But worrying about things before they happen only steals your attention away from enjoying the now. Your fears are valid; your worried are valid, but practice putting them in perspective and watch them feel less gripping as time goes on.
Journalling/writing them out can help. Write a though and ask why/how/where as in why do I think that, how did that thought come into this situation and where did this thought come from?
Also a note about worrying and fear: it shows how much you care, about hurting other people, about not acting in line with your morals, about doing your best. Those are all things to be proud of, the fact that you care about those things. The key is learning to moderate what you care about with what you can control right now in this moment and letting go of what you can't. You don't have to let go forever either, just for now, so you can focus in changing what you can right now.
Good luck
ReplyIf you want a start to become the person you want to be then start by cutting all your social media. I have never felt so peaceful in my life after doing that.
Fight for yourself. Not the one you're just using currently by practically killing it slowly but the one that deserves to exist in this world.
Wake up early in the morning and breath the that fresh air that you love and go to sleep earlier so you can function.
Go out for a walk during the sun or
the rain or the snow .
Free yourself from the things that harm you and you will feel the heavy burden disappearing.
Now of course I am just saying some things that helped me live again on today's world. But you do you. Of course you could try what I said but don't try to do everything all at once. I mean even if you broke your leg and wore a cast you would not run right away after taking the cast out.
Take your time cause you have plenty of it.
And in case you "fail" (maybe again) just start again till you succeed at every thing you want. You haven't practically failed if you don't stop trying so you don't have anything to lose.
It's just the beginning of the beginning.
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