PLEASE SOMEONE HELP ITS URGENT. please

please someone give me some advice, I'm trying to keep this story short but its literally a crisis and I feel so bad for my ma, she's never cried her eyes out so much. Her dad died today suddenly, and she's been crying since and now my dads found her a flight so that ATLEAST she can make it to her dad's funeral in another country where he is, but even thats not confirmed yet. More to the story, our family was supposed to go to Turkey this Wednesday. Why the hell is it always me who ends up dealing with some sort of situation before holidays? I cant imagine what my ma's going thru and I dont even know how to comfort her I've just been hugging her and rubbing her back, comforting her thru words but it hurts seeing her cry. Please someone help, the trip to Turkey is still on going but its just gonna be me, my dad, and brother and I hate being alone with men even if its my own family because of my disgusting brother. And on planes, I'm scared of flying and its ALWAYS my ma who reassures me and makes sure I dont panic so I dont know what I'm going to do when I'm on my flight on Wednesday. I dont know how ill cope with my ma gone for 3 weeks either, please someone suggest something I hate this. None of this would've happened if my family back home ACTUALLY took care of my grandad and made sure he was okay, but no NONE OF THEM CARED. And now he's dead, and my family's a mess.