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So my ex bf knows that I am not a virgin anymore and now he wants to get back together with me. I mean I still like him and all but idk what to do. The guy I was with hasn’t talked to me at all since we slept together. But my ex bf is more my age and we could actually date and hang out and see each other more often. On the other hand the older guy treats me pretty good and I obviously have feelings for him, plus he was just my first. So idk what to do. I got some good advice on here earlier so I figured id try again. Thank you to all those who help each other on here.
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You should do what your heart tells you to do, but I just find it strange that your ex found out that your not a virgin anymore and now all of a sudden wants to be with you again. Sounds like he is just wanting to sleep with you. Maybe I’m wrong. Hopefully I am. Good luck. Be safe
Replytest drive them both and see which one you like better
ReplyHi darling, first of all I hope you're doing okay after this experience, I know it can be overwhelming and hard to process. The most important person in this situation is you, and you don't have to choose either of the two! More opportunities will come later even if you decide not to pursue either of them now. Assuming that you are young, I would caution you against sleeping with older boys. I did the same thing and am not shaming you or passing judgement on you or your intelligence in any way. The fact that he has not talked to you since sleeping with you means that he is not interested in a deeper relationship with you. I'm so sorry for any pain or discomfort that that may cause you to feel, and I say that not to hurt you but to try to warn you about investing more time into him. Lots of the times boys are able to separate their feelings from their physical actions. You deserve someone that will hold you after your first time and reassure you and treat you very kindly. Don't settle for less okay? You deserve to feel safe and cared for. As for your ex bf, anytime that we leave a romantic situation it's because we feel so strongly in our gut that something is wrong. My advice would be to respect the version of you that had the courage to leave your ex, her reasons were valid. I know when you have multiple options it can seem like you have to pick one, but if it were me in this situation talking to my past self or my daughter I would want her to choose herself and not get back together with either boys. I think the best thing you can do in this situation is take time to think about how you want to feel in a relationship, what would make you feel safe, what would make you feel loved. Don't settle for less than what you'd want for the child version of yourself. Wherever you are in the world right now, I love you stranger and I hope you find many beautiful things out of this life :)
Reply15 and I am doing okay. He did come over to talk last night or should I say early this morning. We talked in his car and he said he couldn’t talk about it unless it was in person. Idk why, and he was acting kinda weird. He did comfort me after the first time and we cuddled. Then last night we slept together again in his car and afterwards he told me that he cared about me but it could be nothing more than what it was that I was to young and he couldn’t date me. Idk what to do. And as for my ex we dated when we were really little and didn’t brake up for any reason really and we have still liked each other and are really close. I kinda feel used but I also liked the feeling of having someone close and doing that even if it did hurt a bit cause im not use to it yet and he is a little umm large. My ex is still a virgin and a little older than me. It would be easier to see him and be with him and we have always been close. And as far as if we did it it might be better cuz he is not like the other one he is much smaller. So idk what to do. I just wana be loved and be close.
ReplyYou shouldn't be having sex until you are an adult of which you are not. You are making poor decisions.
Replymore people have at my age then havent
ReplyDoesn't mean you have to be a sheep and follow the herd. Haven't you got your own brain?
ReplyI read your other post and what you’ve come back here to say, that he told you it can be nothing more, was inevitable. Sadly you’ve been used, blanked and rejected and the reason why men like that go for young girls like you is because so many are naive, inexperienced, haven’t developed enough self respect to stand their ground and get over-excited by the attention. Older women see men like that a mile off and that’s what makes young ones more attractive because they’re much more vulnerable/easier to trick.
Fifteen year olds think they know everything and can handle anything but they are in fact way out of their depth. You said he can’t date you because of your age- but he can have under age sex with you? Run for your life
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