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I went to a pub today and I did not know what to do. I just stood at a table, drinking a beer and eating a burger. All the advice I read says you "go to a bar", "attend a class", or "go to a meet-up". So I when I ate the burger, I continued to drink my beer and walk around. But it was too loud for me to join any conversation. It was awkward, I just stood around, drinking a beer I did not even like, so I left. Nobody spoke with me, and it was just demoralizing realizing I was the only person that was alone. That is how it always has been for me. I am alone wherever I go. That's how I left, I left alone. What inevitably happens is that I will yell at myself in the car.
"WHY CAN'T I BE HAPPY?"
"NOBODY WANTS TO TALK"
"I HATE MY LIFE"
I am losing my mind. I have tried to go to meet-ups, I have gone to bars, but there's nothing I can do. I work full time, so I can't attend any classes (especially in regards to classes I would want to attend).
So I don't buy any of this advice. Making friends has to be more than just "going to classes", "going to bars", and "joining clubs". I suspect you just have to be extremely attractive and have some kind of social media presence. I have neither of these. I am ugly and I refuse to use social media, because it seems inherently narcissistic (it's all about you and pictures of you, and why would I, someone who is ugly, want that?)
Maybe I should just kill myself? What's the point of living if I cannot be happy? I would go through with it, but what of all my belongings? I would have to write a will, wouldn't I? I'm constantly angry and sad. I'm a miserable loner. All I do in a day is work, go out for a walk, eat, and sleep. That is not a life worth living, is it?
So what I want to know is, is it that there are people in this world who are designated loners?
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Do an activity which interests you and perhaps likeminded people at your activity will find something in common with you. Your friendship or relationship will then be based on real world interactions and not social media fakeness.
ReplyWould you consider joining a sport team like darts, tennis, badminton, pool, or snooker? You could make friends that way as well as maybe being an asset to the team.
ReplyIdk if u have it but if u have Facebook. Put in the Search bar, singles of 'ur location' and it'll come up with groups of singles that go out, hold events and mingle in ur area and u can make a post like hi im new etc. Or yes go out to classes and fake it till u make it, observe what people are doing walk up say hi I'm new how long have u been coming to these events? I like ur work! Do u have any recommendations or say have any advice about (topic of class ur doing) etc the worse thing someone can do is say no or be rude and with that u just stare and say thats not nice and walk off! If u just walk in a place, say and do nothing then nothing will be done. You're shy? Everyone's shy! Also for approaching women, find out what they like and discuss it PAY ATTENTION, if ur not a big talker all u gotta do is have a few phrases and ask here and there oh I see, oh what did u do? Oh that's understandable etc and they'll keep talking.
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