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So there´s this guy that I have known for like 14 years, basically our entire childhood. This year we are both juniors in high school, and ironically for the length of time we have known each other, gone to parties together, camping, etc, but we rarely actually spoke to one another. I never saw him as someone I liked, he was just this guy my age I have known forever- until now ig.
Junior year, for most girls, means prom, and while I have never really liked going out, I was excited about prom and going with my friends. Then a bunch of adults asked if I was going, of course, to prom, and when I replied yes, they immediately asked who I was going with, I always responded ¨ Oh I am just going with my friends.¨ and they always said ¨you should go with a boy.¨ To which after that, they gave an example of a guy I should go with. And every time, it was *that* boy. At first, I hated the idea and thought it would be humiliating to ask this guy who you barely talk to, to come with you to prom. But the more people said I should ask (specifically) him, the more I thought there was something I didn't know. That was the extent of it and I never thought much of it after a while.
About some time later, the church, that we both attended, was hosting a camp for high schoolers. It was a long weekend camp about 2 hours north of where we lived and I was excited to ¨detox¨ from my phone and hang out with my friends. He also went with his friends, and to my surprise, I was really happy to see him and kept ¨looking¨ for him during camp.
On the last night, we had a sermon that was directed toward getting into the faith. And if anyone has ever gone to a Christian camp, you probably guess that it means it's cry night- and it was.
My friends and I decided to stay after the sermon was over and people were leaving the chapel, to help stay and clean up. As we were cleaning, I noticed him crying, ugly crying across the chapel, and I so badly wanted to go over and hug him and be there for him, but I was too scared and I still regret not going over to him. I felt terrible and a huge respect for him at the same time, and I feel that's when I realized I like him.
I have had crushes before, but never bothered to try and be friends with them or if they were my friend, I would never tell them I liked them. I always figured I would be alone forever, at least for a long time. Not because I wanted to be alone, but because I already made my mind up that no one would ever like me. But for some reason, I wanted to talk to him.
When I got home, I texted him telling him I was praying for him. I didn´t think he would respond, but just about 15 minutes later, he did. We had a small conversation and I felt relieved. I texted him a couple of days later to ask how he was and we talked some more- but only a little bit. I quit texting him because I thought it was weird to suddenly care for someone who only knows you because of some silly past. But yesterday I texted him again and by now it was 2 weeks since we had last talked. I thought I might be silly because he probably doesn´t want to talk- I mean why else would he never start the conversation? But I didn´t want to back out now so I texted him and again, we talked a little. That night, yesterday night, we had a small group at youth group and I had planned to speak to him because it would be weird to text but not talk. And when I got to church, he was right at the door and I immediately had butterflies in my stomach and all I did was smile at him! I am so mad at myself for that.
With spring break being next week, I found out he is going away on vacation for 2 weeks with another friend I have, so now I won´t be able to try again for a while. I feel so stupid.
Please give me some advice.
How does a girl talk to a guy lol?!?!
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GOSHDAMN, story of my life babe. Almost everything you said perfectly aligned my love story too! I can't really give out good advice since I'm going through exactly what your going through🥲.
Anyway a small bit of advice so you don't end up like me(girlie you don't wanna know)
Try going out of your way to make simple convos like "hey it's *the boy*! How are you doing? " Or like "hi *that boy* how are you? Are you doing well" And if you think these lines are weird cuz like you said earlier, why would you just start to care for someone you barely talk to and have a silly past with but that's ok. Because showing that you actually care for him will bring you two close together and will give him the courage to engage in more convos with you!! Go out of your way to support him, greet him, or just silly talk to him and, I know, as all of us introverts are shy to approach others, try to muster up your courage thinking "it's now or never".you never know he might actually like you too but is also an introvert🥰🥰. Any way, don't coward away bc that's exactly what I did and, umm, it didn't end well😄.
Any way, I'm looking forward to your next update about him so, stay spot on and believe in yourself ❤
Also I noticed how you used the word "sermon"
Now I have a question, are you perhaps Filipino?
ReplyOh my gosh firstly, I love your personality haha.
And thank you for your advice, it is comforting to know someone has gone/is going through the same thing. I am sorry, however, that yours didn´t work out, but I hope you find the perfect person!
And no I am not Filipino😅
ReplyDamn I agree with this other person. I've also experienced every thing you've felt so I went out of my way to talk to him and suprise, after 2 years we got married and have 2 beautiful twins.
At first I just thought he was just a dude, then after a while I found him cute, then my vision changed into him being the perfect guy, and then I obsessed with him.
To describe him he had some long hair, tall slim build, glasses, a damn cute smile that lit up my soul, and a happy personality.
Damn until now I still find him cute so my only advice is to pursue your goals and most importantly, show you care for him
ReplyTHAT IS SO CUTE and I am so happy it worked out for you <3.
thank you so much for reading <3333333
ReplyIn my humble opinion, you have not done anything wrong. I think building up the courage to talk in person will help take this relationship to the next level. Maybe ask your mutual friend to arrange a meeting at juice bar or some fast food restaurant with the 3 of you and you'll can talk about Spring Break. Don't lose focus of your educational goals. Best of luck.
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