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Bullying at work
Have u ever been bullied at work
I think anyone who is good at what they do is unfortunately going to be bullied sooner or later, its sadly the way of the world, or at least of nz
So who bullied you? What happened?
I am not going to give those people any further time by saying their names or discussing what they did.
Suffice to say I think sooner or later, every bully out there, knows what they are and that they are trying to cause harm. However at the same time, 99% of them will never even admit it to themselves let alone anyone else.
Why do you think this is? Why do bullies bully?
Why? They want to cause harm is the simple answer. The bigger question is why do they want or need to cause harm? Someone said once, that when people are hurt, they respond by trying to hurt others. As a defence mechanism. If a person has been hurt, they are afraid to be hurt again, and so they often retreat to a mechanism of "hurt first before I can be hurt".
My personal belief is 5at a lot of bullies are working within this place of hurt and fear of being hurt. And those who are not working within that space, are possibly the small few who are actually diagnosable psychopaths/sociopaths and genuinely do not understand how to navigate relationships and the world in general, except from a place where they take everything they can from anyone vulnerable or unwary enough to allow them to do so.
So your advice for anyone being bullied?
Most likely they are suffering from their own hurt and fears, or possibly they are are physiologically incapable of empathising with you or feeling any guilt at the pain and suffering they cause you.
Regardless of whether they are attacking you from hurt or from psychological inability to feel empathy and interact and understand others, your options are unchanged.
You are under attack. Make no mistake about that. Your own actions must be to defend yourself first and foremost.
From a christian perspective. If they are trying to harm you in this way, they are not currently in a place where they are hearing gods word and where you can talk to them or talk them down. Your first action, as a christian or even as a non christian (might be your way to prove or disprove what i say in this blog) is to ask god to give you guidance and discernment.
Your second action should be to pray in your own defence, by asking God to place the full armour of god about you.
Then
You need to protect yourself first and foremost. Understand that you do not need to be doubting yourself or your own value regardless of what this oerson does. And it may be that this person is troubled and needs to come to god, but cannot do so until they fall and fail without him. Therefore if their actions are set to cause you harm and are ungodly actions, then you must defend yourself against this because while they are human and subject to failure and sin, their actions are possibly being driven by the enemy. Doreen this with love always (and you will probably need to ask, ask, and ask again, for God to put love in your heart, because if you are like me, you will NOT be feeling any love for that person at all! - You will probably be having fantasies about them falling flat on their face and having to watch you sour to glorious heights while they fail and look supremely stupid (ok that might be me, also might be my confession!))
As a Christian it is your biblical calling to fight the devil (James 4.7 NLT: So humble yourselves before God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.).
So when you are feeling undemined and tired and worn out and out of faith. Remember this calling. If you are a Christian, you are called by the Lord Your God to fight against the deveil wherever you might find him
Also pray every day for your own protection, use psalm 91 (and of course whatever other passages God brings to you) in those prayers. It. Is important when you go against the enemy, in prayer, to remember this is a very real spiritual battle and you need to protect yourself first, with the full armour of god, and secondly with prayers to God to hold you steadfast and protect you.
Once you are armoured up and protected, then its time to take the offence, by rebuking the devil whenever and whatever form he comes upon you. He obvious way to do this is is to rebuke the devil in Jesus name, but also ensure every step of the way you are keeping in constant contact with god by prayer.
Think of it as you being a member of an army fighting in war. You would want to stay in touch with your commander at all times. You would want to learn all you can about your enemy before the battle if possible. You would spend time learning tactics and techniques and also the ability to follow lead and learning routines and practises to follow, which have been proven to be effective ways to keep morale up, and to identify and win a strategic advantage in wars before this one. Many of the things you would learn in boot camp would be based on proven techniques to keep you alive firstly, keep you safe secondly, keep your morale up, and also to allow you to always remember and know what you should do in any threatening situation. Approach your Christianity the same way. You are a soldier in a spiritual war which is real. And when things come against you they will be looking to find you unprepared for their attack. They will attack you on multiple levels. They will look to deceive you, tell you that you are not important to your army and your leader. Tell you that the reasons you are in this war are wrong or do not exist. Tell you that you are not good enough to do what needs to be done.
For you, it may sound like some of these things, or may not, this is just what it has come to me as, but it will come to every person VERY intelligently planned out to hit you right where it hurts for you, which will most likely be different from where it hurts me.
For me it was, and still is these things and more.
Im going to do something I would never normally do (and i am still too scared to do as myself), and I am going to post a list of the actual literal negative things that go through my mind whenever am considering stepping out of my comfort zone for any reason that I feel God wants me to:
Satan to me (in my head):
"Why do you think you know anything about god
You drink much wine, all the time
You swear
You don't even go to church most weeks
You just have all these stupid ideas in your head that god is real and is listening to you and hears you? He isn't, you are just dreaming as usual
You don't even have a job right now
You don't have a home or enough money
Someone you love died, so clearly god isn't real is he because you begged for God to save them and they just died anyway. So where is he?
Basically you are just this half drunk idiot rambling on and no one is listening."
If you want to, post a comment, (if that is a feature of wherever I have posted this anonymously) if you felt god was talking to you here
But if you don't want to post a comment, then Don't... Thats all good đź‘Ť.
I am doing as God is asking me to, and while I would love to know this impacted someone, if it impacts one single person who I never hear from in this life, it is still a resounding success.
So thats me
Hallelujah
God bless, protect and meet with anyone who might read this, in Jesus name
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I had a similar experience. Within one workplace everywhere I went there was always someone being a bully or multiple bullies. You were screwed if did or didn't basically. It was so toxic. Wish I had left sooner. Some people were pretty cruel. Childish. Projected their misery onto others. It was a learning experience I can say that. Sorry you were bullied too. Have a blessed day :)
Replyunless you are just like a bully, I don’t see how they could possibly hurt you. A bully values things different than a truly happy person. thus, the bully will be going about things trying to bully by using things they believe of value, where they are not capable of knowing what the truly kind loving person values because they are obviously living in a more immoral way than said kind person, therefore not ever reaching a point where they would even know what makes the kind person tic. therefor, the bully cannot reach the kind person who is made up an entirely different way than the bully. it is easy to feel sorry for and love even the bully, because the bully obviously has gone through things in life that has made them hate with a vengeance, likely things the kind person has never had to endure, or will ever. the kind person can simply continue spreading love that could possibly even reach the mind and heart of the bully. there is no need to tarnish one’s existence by running around to try to learn all tools of the bully if that is not a life you wish to live. you would he learning skills that do not even fit with your make up like trying to force a square through a circle, it would not fit in your make up because you are not a bully, and why in the world would you want to behave like the bully, getting exposed to things that mean nothing to where your heart and mind lies. it is almost as nonsensical as if you were to see a polyamorous person try to shove a square monogamous person into their circular existence of harems, sex dolls, and prostitutes. the square won’t fit in with the tribe of sinful pleasure pleasing non-altruistic people, nor would they even want to. they don’t exist the same way in make up. any way you try to bully, lie, or shove them in a place they simply cannot fit, you would be simply wasting time like a clueless, silly gerbil on a wheel. it would be foolish and get a bit comical as if you were to watch a wolf trying to shove a melting warm ball in with all his collection of cold ice cubes. the ball would melt being thrown into the cave of ice cold stone hard harem of hedonistic-minded beings. who in the world would want to become another ice cube and live in a way that doesn’t appeal to them? nonsense.
ReplyI really fail to see why you even commented in the first place if you couldn't either identify lift up or give positivity to the stated situation.
ReplyThe religious context made this post hard to follow. Shorten it up next time. Ok let’s get to the nitty gritty of this situation. I think the individual (victim of bullying) should be very direct about what is going on. These people (bullies) get shut down in their tracks when they get confronted directly about what’s going on. You don’t need to bring any religion into this or any physical activity with this. Just directly let them know about their insecurities on why they are bullying you.
ReplyIt's their post I'm pretty sure they can make it as long as they please. And nothing states they can't mention said religion. If you were unhappy with it why did you give it a second thought?
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