Reminder on YOUR veiws on sex.

Sorry, but sex isn't one size fits all.

Understand some people feel attraction differently, some has been abused (different ways it can happen too), and religion and other values play a part. And, many other, different things!

It's NEVER a personal attack on you if someone isn't turned on by something you showed them, or didn't laugh at the same thing you did, or doesn't want to show their body or turned you down. ALWAYS respect people's body's and boundaries.

You want others to respect you, you should try to respect them. No one is entitled to sex, so never force it on others! And, if you are the lucky person that is someone 's closest trusted person. Be careful what you say or treat them if they confuse something to you. It may seem selfish, but it's very damaging if you just completely disregrade their own feelings while they are valuable.

I am gonna end this with a advice on how to spot a sexual abuse in a child. This might aply to adults, too. hopefully no more misdiagnosis and kids get help.

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●A child's behavior changes.

●Being distructed ir distant.

●Being interested and/or acting out sexual or romantic behavior, like flirting constanly or kissing other kids at school. A 6 year old shouldn'tdo that so casually! If at ALL!

●Obession with private parts and body fluids. Kids find butts and farting funny, yes, but if you notices this with their toys, or it's a regular thing, you might want to look into it.

●Avoiding eye contact. Obvious people who never SUFFER through unwated sex, doesn't know this secret, but a disassociation trick for people is to advert your gaze, like staring at the ceiling throughout the abuse. Don't look it isn't happening. Definitely not to confused, you...

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THIS IS MORE PTSD OR C-PTSD [Still worth mentioning!]:

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●Constant bad dreams. Especially bad with a adult! If a adult has regular nightmares.

●Memory issues.

●Advoiding certain things or places.

●Triggered responses to certain actions, like being touched.

●Repeative play. Again pay attention to how a child is playing, or how a teen or adult jokes or expresses them. It's harder when someone is older, but it still shows an older people, it might just be constant invasive thoughts and/or what they write.

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It's CRUCIAL to intervene young! The younger the safer. NO ONE asks for this.

NO ONE deserves this.

AND ABSOLUTELY NO ONE should be more or less victim blamed!

If you ever yelled at someone, ranted at someone, or not change your behavior when someone confessed sexual truama or discomfort to you...

STOP IT. GET SOME HELP.

Seriously.

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