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My Ex just tried to 'One Up' me in the sickest way possible!!
2 weeks ago · 2 · Need Advice · Explicit
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I have a toxic ex of 3 years who has done nothing not to hurt me. But in turn i still have feelings for him and he knows it.
He keeps hitting me up for sex every couple months and the second last time we hooked up - i put my foot down and told him this is not working for me because I have feelings for him.
He did not speak to me after that saying its not for him.
Then a couple months later he asked me out again and we eventually hooked up and I opened up to him again saying I genuinely feel hurt everytime this happens because i have feelings for him and since he insists its not for him its better he doesnt contact me and ask me out anymore. He said okay sure and left
Recently he contacted saying he would like to meet up and I told him no and that I wont meet him. He sent me paragraphs of messages apologizing and telling me how much he wants to be in a relationship with me again and at least we can have dinner.
I told him alright but since id be away for 3 weeks lets meet on the 22nd of April. He seemed downtrodden but agreed.
Flash forward to the 22nd i receive no text from him- I hesitantly sent one the next day in case there had been any miscommunication to which he replied he wasnt sure if i was still interested. I said I am and lets have dinner
To which he said no he doesn't have time since he has a very busy week.
Now since I was to be away again I told him I only have thursday night available and because i want to show him im making a commitment its ok if he wants to come over after dinner if he doesn't have time.
He pulled it on me that I'm turning it into a booty call to which i told him that I had asked for dinner first and since I as going to be away again I didn't want him to feel like i dont want to spend time with him.
He said he doesnt want to come over and that he doesnt have time for dinner this time around because of working late to which i said alright Ill let him know when i have time again.
He proceeded to ask me if i still wanted him over to which i said no if hes so uncomfortable.
But then he started sending steamy messages of how he wants me and I reciprocated whilst telling him that i dont want to meet if hes on the fence and its alright to wait but not stressing on this too much as I was busy working.
Then abruptly he messaged saying that he doesn't want to meet me anymore and that hes sorry if he wasted my time.
This hurt me alot and I sent a couple messages trying to explain to him how its unfair that he keeps playing with my feelings like this despite my constant communication about how much it hurts me and how much worse I feel after.
After writing 4 paragraphs I realized he isnt worth it and doesnt deserve to know how i feel and unsent the messages and left his message on read.
since it was instagram im sure he never read my msgs in actuality since he never opened them.
The next morning I realized he had blocked me everywhere and later at night I saw his BJJ gym had posted him around dinner time attending a class.
I believe he had planned this all along to get me hooked and drop me in the worst way possible because the previous two times i had cut things off telling him I didnt want casual sex.
This was the most insane and sick thing ever, to the point I'm concerned if hes right in the head.
For the past 3 years I have been nothing but nice and kind to him, in what ever situation he has put me through and always told him that i am here to communicate. I have never texted him , not ever, when he said he didn't want me- I never bothered his life and requested to move on with mine respectfully. Then why go through such an elaborate plan to hurt me so badly yet again?
I am hurt of course, but more confused because this is just downright mean and i do not see what pleasure this could bring anyone. How is it fun to stomp over someone who has genuinely loved you and cared for you?
I wish I could get closure and answers but I don't think I ever will
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