The guy

I haven't written here in a while, and a lot is going on. I really appreciate anyone who takes the time to read and reply to all of this.

A few months ago I fell for a guy. He's really friendly and sweet, very funny, we tease each other all the time and have a lot of inside jokes. Within a few weeks of getting feelings for him I found out that he has a boyfriend, and had to spend the next few weeks getting over that heartbreak. But I was never over it as completely as I thought, and when they broke up at the start of the year my feelings just came flooding straight back. Obviously, I never let on - not when he was in a relationship, not when I was supporting him afterwards, not even now. But he told me that while he's not straight, he's also not gay.

For the last 3 months or so I was getting signals that he might like me. Personally, I was falling head over heels. But he treats me differently from others, we laugh more, share inside jokes, support each other. I could describe the signals I've been getting but on the minuscule off-chance that he ever reads this, I don't want it to be too identifiable. I was really starting to believe that we might get together.

In the past couple of days, however, I've just had some really negative signals which do not bode well. He's all but said that while he's not gay, he leans much further towards that end of the spectrum in the long run.

I just don't know what to do about it. I really really like him, I've fallen quite hard, and I don't know how he feels. He gives good signals but he's also just a super friendly person, and he's pretty much said he prefers men. Should I just leave things to simmer? Preempt the hurt and try to move on already? Have the conversation with him so at least I know where I stand once and for all?