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I am a girl in my mid twenties and I have never been in a relationship. I have had a few talking stages but never actually been with someone in my life. I enjoy the flirting stage but as soon as things starts to get serious I get nervous and I back out. I am afraid of commitments, I consider everything starting from the way they're now to the future and then just decides I cannot move forward.
So recently I met a guy at work and we kinda clicked. He's a good guy and we've been talking for few months now. We both work remotely so we've only met in person once and after that only we started talking more, currently we're in a point where we've both admitted we like each other and have started having conversations a bit further into the zone than just friendly.
Now since he has said he likes me I have gotten more anxious and am observing his every move. All the guys that had entered my life yet were all super calm and submissive kind of people and they've been friends first, but this one is a bit different. he's kinda dominant and has a very bold leadership personality. he knows what he's doing and is good at talking to people, in work also he's the man you can go to for help and he's there. This is one of a reasons I liked him.
But now the thing is exactly this, i don't know if it'll be too much for me. Even though we're not exclusively in a relationship, we still are more than friends now and sometimes I feel like he's a bit controlling. He once randomly said he's sometimes jealous of my guy friends, upon asking why he said because they get to hang out with me while he don't. Even though he never asks me not to hang out with them but i still felt kinda weird. Also he randomly said one day that he's afraid of losing me cause he thinks I deserve better and he's scared my friends won't like him hence force me to dump him. Now I said that it's my life so decision will be mine and if he wants to be a part of my life he has to get along with my friends, which he said he wants to as well. But I don't know I felt weird. Also he asks for my pics from time to time saying he misses me and I am not sure if that's a red flag. He listens to me but sometimes I feel like he could be a bit possesive. Also sometimes I feel he could be a bit demanding even though he has not demanded anything yet, but just his personality. He said to me once that we can roast each other all we want in private but in public we should not do so, more specifically roasting is my love language so i tend to do it pretty often.
As I have never been in a relationship before I am not sure what is normal and what is not. I am thinking about maybe dating this guy but honestly I am scared that what if he's a red flag. I searched all over internet and watched tarot card readings but nothing is helping. I do like this guy but i am not sure why i am anxious all the time. If he sometimes doesn't text me all day I get anxious and even though he tells me the reason he was gone I feel weird. I also feel upset when I hear a change in his tone, he could be frustrated because of work hence sound a little down but it starts affecting my mood.
I am not sure how to move forward so I am seeking help from all you kind people. Please help a girl out.
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ReplyI'm in same situation.
Right now I'm ignoring the guy.
Let's see if it works.
It is working Ig.
ReplySee where it goes?
ReplyWhat's with the first two comments? My God. The dating world is so toxic.
Here's my advice: get to know him more. You're post is a lot of "well, I feel like he could be this way or that way, but he hasn't done that yet." You're making a lot of presumptions. Maybe you are judging too quickly. Which is common in fear of commitment. Take it slow and get to know the guy. Forget about 'what's normal.' Just try to stay steady on your own. You shouldn't freak out if he doesn't text you for a while. People get busy. And you shouldn't judge him prematurely based on what you think will happen.
Look inside and figure out why you do this. Work on yourself first and foremost. Use this connection to inspire your own growth. And let go of outcomes. Go with the flow. You got this!
ReplyYou either want babies with a man or you don't. If it's a no then you move on.
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