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I can't help but feel like I should just shut down and isolate for a while. Is that healthy? I just feel so lost. I don't feel good enough for him. Friends or otherwise. So maybe I should just leave. Ugh.
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You can take a break but don't isolate for too long. Why don't you feel good enough?
ReplyMostly my physical appearance, but also just a lack of self-confidence in general. I recognize that it isn't exactly fair to assume that he is so shallow to judge me based on my body alone, but we haven't met yet and there's no way to know if he has any expectations. I am overweight, that's not everyone's type and that is fine. But even more than what he might think about me, I just don't like myself. Past experiences and relationships have led me to think of myself as lazy, dramatic, dumb, and generally just undeserving. I can recognize that I think these things about myself, and that none of these beliefs have come from my own observations of events. But I just can't figure out how to rewire my brain to stop thinking like this. I was the victim of mob-mentality rumors and lies. I guess I just feel like, if so many people think I am a terrible person, then I must be. Why would I believe myself over the majority of people?
Replyah I see. sorry to hear you feel that way. I don't think you should leave the friendship but take a day or few off to compose yourself. Things should get better for you, maybe write your thoughts down every so often to remind yourself that things may not be as bad as you think they are.
ReplyI think i can relate, sometimes some situations makes us feel like we really should go away. Same things happened and is still happening in ma lyf. But hey its not bcos u r worthless or something like that , sometimes spending time with ourselves is an amazing gift we give to our soul... life is hard and some situations can be so terrible , it can make us lose our energy to fight. But u know wt? there is strength inside u .. there is always a deep space inside us where no one can reach.. its only for us.. wake it up and set it free. We all need that isolated moment in our life.. Do something.. read or write, paint, do annnnnything that u luv. Give time to ur heart, ur brain and ur soul, give a relaxing cup of coffee to ur mind.
idk if this sounds too common, but these words are from my heart .. hope it will help uh. STAY CALM AND TUNED.
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