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so my boyfriend and i have been together 2.5years, we've been through a lot of rough patches in the past, but we love spending time with each other (mostly), ig he doesnt sometimes.
so we go to the same university, same major and all, anyway so he's just slowly transitioned into someone less lovey, idek about transition, he's very lovey once or twice a week and the rest of the days just okay. just there.
where as i have become completely obsessed with him, i always delay going home, so i can spend more time with him, he's never the one to want to stay back for longer, he just always wants to go back home.
i get that he travels 1hr to get to uni and the classes, the heat, and the travel is draining, but i travel about 40 mins as well, and i still somehow care the most about him, the most about our time together, no matter how tired i am, always wanting to hangout more, talk more. it's insane that my biggest desire is to just be around him, even when im drenched with sweat, frustrated, annoyed.
i initiate all the calls more too, but he really puts in the effort to find a space where we can talk cause he doesnt always have privacy.
but im always the one to suggest it like (75% of the time).
his family is also struggling financially for a while and they just suffered a big financial loss. and he's really stressed about that too.
but anyway, i just feel unloved, i'm always staring at him, always trying to initiate a conversation with him, keeping the energy alive bec he's down lately.
he's never even clingy with me, he's started replying really late, forgets to respond, or text that he's home. forgets to look at the reels i send him.
i jump at any notification i get from him, i'm always excited to see what reel/meme he sent.
i always want to go out more, talk more.
he is a little lowkey and shy though, not someone who sees tiny gestures as that important i suppose, and he gets uncomfortable with showing affection. but then why is it that he's great some days of the week when hes happy, i know that shy part is just an excuse then bec when he actually pays attention to me i can feel it. i'm not crazy. and idk but it seems like he does bring energy to convos with other ppl, but not me, im just around him a lot so he has stopped caring?? does he not care about what i think anymore, does he not care to impress me anymore?
i guess i just feel like he doesn't value me as much as i value him. he's not obsessed, so i feel like it's one sided. i feel hurt when he's not into the conversation, like he doesnt care about what i'm saying. i sometimes think i talk too much so my words have lost value but only always trying to strive convos with him so our relationship doesnt die, he's my fav person and all i ever wanna do is talk to him. i am an interesting person to talk to btw. im not annoying..
what should i do??
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I would just ask him. You've been together for 2.5 years, you should be able to communicate with each other about this stuff. Don't make it seem like an accusation that he is doing something wrong. But just say something like, 'Hey, I feel like you've been kinda distant lately and I just wanted to check in and make sure everything is still going good between us. If it's just financial stress or other issues, I am always here to talk if you need. ❤️" Or whatever sounds more like you.
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