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4 months ago · · Need Advice,
I need advice. I'm married and have unexpectedly fallen for a close mutual friend. I love my spouse and they don't deserve my divided attention.
This was never supposed to happen.
I have many reasons to believe the romantic feelings are mutual. It has never been talked about or acted on (and it never will). I'm on a path of letting go, seeking forgiveness and moving on. There has never been any physical cheating in my marriage ever, but I'm well aware emotional cheating is just as bad, if not worse. I feel terrible.
I know the best thing I can do is stop all (extended) interaction with this person. (again, this is a mutal family friend) This will be noticeable to said person. We've gotten to a place of honesty in our friendship (outside of this unspoken gray area) where we always communicate if anything is up. They will know right away if things get "weird" and que assumptions and bam.. feelings are hurt. Everything is awkward. Everyone is uncomfortable.
MY QUESTION IS: Should I come clean to said person and explain why I can no longer talk to them? I know this is something they would appreciate. (as would i) Thus would also make it easy to navigate through after. I just don't want to regret it later. (things getting uncomfortable) Note: I interact with this person frequently due to family.
(I am well aware there is an entire conversation I need to have with my spouse.)
No hate or judgment in the comments please.
I know I'm in the wrong.
Just trying to make it right.