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today I found out that my ex cheated on me. we broke up a year and a half ago and we dated for 3.5 years. I found out he cheated on me when he went away from someone who was there and saw it happen. idk why but it actually made me feel sad. it made me feel naive for always thinking that he was loyal. I remember when he went away I would beg him not to.
he went away every single summer. I always tried to stay positive and think that he would remain loyal. I have a boyfriend now who I am so in love with, but I can’t help but feel like he’s going to cheat on me too. i'm scared to trust him so much and then find out later on that he cheated on me. I feel like people can lie so easily right to my face and I would actually never know.
I feel like no matter how great someone is or how much I love them, there will never be someone who stays loyal to me or at least admits to cheating on me. everyone just lies with no remorse. I know if I cheated on someone, I would be consumed by guilt and I wouldn’t be able to look at them straight in the face and deny it. I don't know if this is normal to feel.
Why do I feel so uneasy and anxious now.
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What you're feeling is a barrier between truly trusting them and not. Your'e so scared to be cheated on again that it instantly gets your brain wary and protective of the next one you let into your life. Of course what you feel is a natural human instinct, to be as far away from any suspect that can bring further hurt to us, to protect ourselves. Now if you have a boyfriend right now then I can only suggest try again. Rather, try trusting him little by little. You can do this by firstly, talking to him and letting him know not that you love him so much, but tell him that you want to trust again, and tell him that you need his help to do it because you ultimately love him, little by little, on the side note you guys will grow a stronger bond. I promise. Having trust issues is normal, but we must completely know to surrender to our partners and trust them. I really adore your bravery for opening up and sharing out, because its not only you who have gone through this. You're just a girl who wants to love again someone truly, and you recognize your trust issue is on the way, and I really do admire that bravery to seek help. Overall, just let him know that you want to love him at a vast level, and by doing that you guys must work together in helping you trust again. Hope this helps, cheers <3.
ReplyI feel the exact way. This is my first time on here. My ex cheated on me multiple times. One time when he went away to school that was only 1 hour away. He begged me to stay only to be shady behind my back all over again. Now I’m in a fantastic relationship. Can’t even compare the two relationships or people. And even now I worry I’ll get cheated on. I think it’s normal. We carry baggage into our new relationships as a result from our old ones. Ive been trying my best to set that aside and think logically, realistically and rationally. It’s helped. I’ve also been reading a little more. The current book I’m reading is called The Daily Stoic. Helps me when I read a page or two before bed. Anyway, you’re not alone in feeling the way you feel.
Replywell im glad im not the only one :/
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