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THIS WAS ALREADY POSTED BUT I DIDNT MAKE AN ACCOUNT!!!!!!!
I am so so in love with this one dude. His name will be "R." ive loved him for years. i remember meeting him when i was around 11. Im almost 17 now. im graduated from highschool. heh 2 years early. and yea i know my grammar is shit lol. im sorry. but anyways, we used to never be on good terms. i remember we used to argue about things all the time. but then one day something just clicked. we fell hard for each other. (and let me also add in we have NEVER met in person) im supposed to see him this monday. we always have talked off and on and each time, we would fall in love all over again. things happened and we ended up dating even tho we never met. i left him. biggest mistake of my life. but he forgave me for it. now that we are talking again, he asked me to move in with him. he lives 2 hours from me. he also asked me to move in because he knows my home situation. he is 19 by the way. my mom is an alcoholic and also bitches at me for shit. i never do anything good enough. but im thinking about moving in with him. it something i really wanna do. he also lives 30 minutes away from where im going to college. and there is lots of job opportunities where R lives. some of my family know what im planning and fully support me, but i dont know how to tell my mom about it. i know im only 16 right now, but i have my life together. i do everything on my own pretty much. i set my own schooling up to graduate early, i take care of all my doctors appointments and stuff. i always make sure have a ride to places when i need one in stead of asking my mom, i clean the house and do everyones laundry. the only thing i dont do is cook dinner. i take care of everyones animals including my own 2. i just feel like it would be a good decision for me to move in with R. and i really do love him. i dont even have to meet him to know how i feel. its 7am where i am and im up thinking about our life together. if that isnt saying something then i dont know what is. but yea. i guess here is my problem all in one. except for one thing i left out. my ex in the military is in love with me and ALSO asked me to move in with him, but dont feel the same. he is getting out the military for some issues and he also has ptsd and suicidal tendencies so im scared to tell him how i really feel. i want him to be okay but i also dont want him to do something stupid because i dont feel the same way he does. but yea. thats it lmao
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It's great that you're so responsible at a young age, but I don't think moving in with someone who haven't ever met is a good idea. They might be very different than you imagined, even if you talk to them a lot online. I have many classmates who basically have a totally different personality online, so you can't really judge people's behaviour that way. It might be very dangerous. Maybe you should meet him first, date irl for sometime and REALLY get to know him before you make such a big decision. About your ex, maybe just try to phase out the relationship, like don't tell him everything straight up, just spend lesser and lesser time with him. That way he might not get any dangerous thoughts in his head. All of this is just my opinion, feel free to do whatever you want, it's your life. Btw, I'm 16 from India.
ReplyIf you leave home who will look after the animals? You can't just leave them. Move in with whichever guy lets you bring the animals with you. If both guys say okay to the animals move to in with the one where the animals have the most room and will be happiest.
ReplyCool that you care about the animals and sweet too. But um don't you think MOVING IN with someone at the age of 16 is a pretty big deal? I get she's very mature and responsible for her age. But, bro, you can't move in with someone just on the basis of your pet's happiness. It should be on the basis of both the owner AND the pet's happiness. I can't believe that you only said this, after listening to her whole issue lol
ReplyAnd hey, you have met R in person, right? More than only one date? You are moving in with someone so you gotta at least meet a lot in person to make that decision. Yeah, i get that you guys are in love and that's great! BUT, think about it once more. Also, make it go slow with you telling your real feelings to your ex. He will be alright if you don't just shut him off. Take it slow. Follow the advice of the first person who commented here or just please do what is right for you and your ex.
I wish you and R the best, hope you rock it
also nah, your grammer's perfect XD
ReplyCongrats on graduating early! That is a great accomplishment (: ! BUt I also don’t think it’s a good idea to move in with “R” because You are underage. I understand that you are very independent but we don’t fully know this guys intentions. I understand that the feelings are mutual but I think it’s best that you get to know him first more in person and then see how you like being around him in person. I feel like it’s a big step and maybe you don’t want to e near your mother since she is an alcoholic but moving in with someone you barely know in person is different. I know it sounds like the perfect idea and because you are in love it sounds like nothing can go wrong but there are many things that you should think about before making such a big decision.
ReplyIt's wonderful to hear that you have been taking responsibility for your life. Aside from your question about your love and decision to move in. As someone who has a family member dealing with alcoholism, it is like any other physical disease that needs to be treated not just by medicating but by the support of your family and loved ones. I am sure you have to go through a lot of turmoil in your life because of the stressful environment, but if you can perhaps use the help and support of your boyfriend to find a way to create a better living situation for your mom that would be even more wonderful. Her behavior towards you is because of her mental state due her addiction to alcohol. Leaving her by herself will encourage her alcoholic behavior. I wish you well and all the happiness! <3
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