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My sister and nephew were spending the day with me watching Prison Break at our parents house. It was my last week visiting so we were going to take advantage of all the time we had together. I live 13.5 hours away and own a business so it would be months before I could come and visit again. It was 2 in the afternoon and her husband (who we'll call "Brad") shows up. No big deal. We watched an episode and everything was fine. She started dosing off and he flips his lid. Slapping her arm and telling her she has had enough sleep (even though we were up with the baby the night before while he was in bed sleeping). Then he starts yelling about how he needed to go to town and get creamer, frozen burritos, and other food for the house (he can't drive because he can't be put on their insurance or something of that nature). The whole time, I have not said one word. I was going to let them handle it. He ends up saying that he will have our grandpa and grandma take him and he leaves. My sister then texts him and let's him know that they have plenty of food at the house and do not need to spend money because they have a lot of bills that need to be paid that week. They text back and forth for s little while. Next thing I know, he is busting through my parents front door grabbing all of my nephews things (who is only 1 month old) and yelling that he is taking his son. He goes over to my sister, who is laying on the couch with the baby on her chest, and starts screaming in her face and jerking her by the arms. I finally had to step in and I told him that he better stop disrespecting my sister. I also told him that he better stop the yelling so he didn't wake up our dad (he works nights and was asleep in his bedroom). He yelled back in my face that he "didn't care" and that he "wished my dad would come out and say something". He continued to yell and then started trying to jerk my nephew out of my sisters arms. As soon as i saw that, I told him to leave. He was not going to jerk around a newborn or handle him while he was hostile and raging mad. He continued to scream and cuss on his way out the door so I followed him out to the porch. He started belittling and disrespecting me. Pointing and screaming in my face and the grabbed my shoulders. After threatening to call the police, he finally left the property.
When I walked back inside, my dad had just walked out and wanted to know what was going on. I told him that Brad was being verbally and physically abusive and I kicked him out.
My sister decided to call our grandparents (our dads parents who live next door). Our grandmother answered the phone and my sister told her that "Brad" was acting aggressive. Our grandmother then proceeds to take HIS side!
Let me back up a couple of years for just a moment. My sister met Brad in high school and he was nothing but trouble. He never had structure or respect for authority growing up. From the beginning, my parents did not approve of their relationship because they knew she deserved better. After high school, my sister moved out of my parents house and moved in with him. She did not speak to our parents for a long time because they did not support that relationship. He had countless arrests on his record and was a known drug and alcohol abuser. Behind my parents back, my grandparents were giving them money, taking them on vacations, out to eat, etc. Basically ENABLING bad behavior.
My sister ended up getting pregnant. When she told our grandparents, they told her she pretty much had no choice but to get married or she would be disgraceful to the church (they pride themselves in being devout "Christians"). I tried to talk sense in to my sister but she listened to them because they were supporting them. After the wedding my grandparents even took them on a cruise (for making the "right" choice I guess).
Ok now back to the original story.
After my sister got off the phone with our grandmother, our grandmother sent her s text message saying that she needed to "come to their house right away OR ELSE". Our dad asked if she wanted him to come and she said yes. I asked if I could come and she also agreed.
Upon walking in to our grandparents house, our grandmother immediately starts telling my sister that she needed to be a better wife to Brad. I already wanted to scream. The issue was NOT her! He was the one who needed to be a better husband and FATHER.
Then Brad takes that cue to start yelling and screaming at my sister. My dad immediately got up and walked over to him and told him that he was not going to disrespect his daughter like that. Brad decided to stand up and puff his chest out. Pointing and screaming in dads face. Threatening him. Meanwhile, BOTH of my grandparents were yelling at my dad! Not standing up for their granddaughter and SON. I had enough and walked over to Brad and told him he was NOT going to disrespect my dad. Next thing I know, my grandfather came up behind me and jerked me up my right arm/shoulder and dragged me to the door and slammed me against it.
(Keep in mind I was in a terrible car wreck less than a year prior and have suffered from chronic back pain since then-which everyone knew about).
As soon as my dad saw this, he pulled my grandfather off of me and told him not to touch me. I turned to my grandfather and told him that he was enabling an abuser and when his granddaughter and great grandson came around with bruises then it would be his fault. He screamed at me to get out of his house and that I was not even his granddaughter. (Quick side note: I am not "biologically" my dads daughter. But he is my daddy and always will be-I don't care what DNA says.) While my grandfather screamed this, he was slamming the door against my back. I was pinned in between the screen door and the main metal door. I couldn't get out of the way so he just kept slamming and slamming and slamming. Eventually I got the screen door opened and managed to get out of the house. A few minutes later, my dad came out and we left.
At this moment, I am still in shock. I really can't believe it all happened. What kind of Christian betrays their own child and granddaughter(s) for someone who is a liar, abuser, and mooch. Brad even told me the week prior to this that the only reason he went to church was because my grandparents take them out to eat afterward and they pay for it. But my "Christian" grandparents see no wrong in his actions. Am I missing something??
Now all I am left with is a bruise on my lower back (from the door handle I'm guessing), muscle spasms in my back and shoulders that will not stop, and two less grandparents (because I will never speak to them again-especially after he stated I wasn't his granddaughter in the first place). I really just don't know what to make of it all. Is this prime Christian behavior? Is "being submissive to your husband" more important to the church than treating your elders and women with respect?
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Oh my god i am so sorry! That is so horrible and it makes me so angry that people could actually be like that and encourage abuse!! I hope your sister is ok and that your back gets better. Christianity (in some cases) is so messed up, and people use it as an excuse to get what they want which is so sick. I really do hope that your sister can find the courage to leave her husband because no one should have to go through that. Again i am so sorry and i wish there was something i could do to help.
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