I GIVE UP!

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• bluworld314 · 3 years ago

  Have your tried applying for Instacart or Shipt?

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• kandirn · 3 years ago

  Hey, I'm not sure if you were looking for advice or just venting, but I figured I should share some advice just in case. If you were just venting, no worries, you don't have to take anything I say seriously :)

  So, first off, it seems like you haven't had luck finding a job. If you can't find a physical job that allows you to get out of your home environment, maybe you could try finding one that allows you to work from home. To help with this, you would probably want to have some kind of skill that employers are looking for, like maybe graphic design talent or marketing skills. If you don't have any profitable skill at the moment, there are online course programs that could help with that. There are some free ones on LinkedIn that give you actual certifications, and there's also Skillshare, which has tons of teaching courses on a wide variety of topics. It's free for the first week, and like $15 a month afterward I think.

  If that's not the path you want to take, maybe you could try applying to another college or possibly a trade school? You mentioned that you got kicked out of college, but unless it was for something really serious, I doubt that there's not another academic institution that would be willing to take you. Applying to another school might actually allow you to get away from home also, so there's that.

  And lastly, please take care of yourself. I know that might be hard to do, especially if you're overwhelmed with other stuff, but in stressful situations it's important to find ways to keep yourself sane. Try to find outlets for you emotions, play video games, go for walks, or do whatever else provides a distraction from what's making you upset. It might be a short-term fix, but it buys you time while you try to solve things in other ways. If it's possible, try to spend as little time as possible with those in your family that exhaust you mentally, and be sure to spend time recharging with naps, showers, and just general downtime.

  Hope I was able to help. Stay safe,

  -k.

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• Novni Guest · 3 years ago

  You try checking indeed dot com in your area? Don't give up . Hang in there. Parents idk seems like they've gone crazy these days.

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• SmileWhenAfraid · 3 years ago

  Ok, that's a lot. I'm sorry you feel so low.

  Lets go through some of the issues, and search for the solutions. They're not immediate, but it's a start, and it's better than nothing.

  So, your father isn't the support you need right now. Do you have anyone else to talk to? Anyone that can be your support system? You need someone that is there to help you out, like a friend. I know seeking validation from your parents is a must to most, but coming from someone that had to cut them off, and keep them at a certain distance, you need to stop. It isn't easy, it will take time, but acknowledge it first and foremost. You need to impress yourself first, but let's get that in the back burner for now.

  Driving lessons cost money, you need a job. It's not easy to take no's everywhere, maybe a job-coach? In this regard, I'm lacking. When it comes to school, that's something that needs more in-depth knowledge, so I can't really help you there either, I'm sorry.

  Don't like cooking? What is it you don't like? The food you make, the process, the taste? The dishes? Love and trust, a bit vague to find a solution that doesn't sound stupid.

  You want to be alone? Find some time to do so. Someplace you can breathe, and think without having people get in your business. You control your world, so you can make it fall apart, let it fall, as well as building it up. You know what's wrong, so what are you going to do about it? Take one at a time.

  Sure, lots of people have stress. But your stress is important, and should be taken seriously. You're stressed, so find a way do decompress to think clearly. Jog, punch and scream at a pillow, roll around (I know, odd, but it works for me) walk and look at the things around you, ground yourself.

  One problem at a time. Ignore unhelpful criticism, it won't give you anything. But just ONE thing at a time. Keep searching for employment, let that be a routine in the background. Polish your CV, make it look appealing, watch some cooking vids and try some stuff maybe? Let yourself be bad at it, and enjoy the process.

  I hope this helps.

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• change-create-evolve · 3 years ago

  It's ok to vent, scream, as long us those emotions are released. As the saying goes where focus goes energy flows...focus on patience especially applying for a job, focus on taking it easy on things and most especially on yourself as you are always with your "self", focus on choosing better thoughts as these affect your attitude, behavior and perception about every thing...

  Know that situations are not permanent, your emotions, feelings are not permanent too.

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• Mimmi · 3 years ago

  this sounds like my granny - she loves to put me down when I feel bad. but this is not a reason to kill!! I would keep distance from your dad, and focus on calming down. If you will feel better then you can start over again to search for a new job. You can do it! Good Luck!

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