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How can I get rid of my shyness. My whole life I've been a shy person. When I met new people as a child I would always hide behind my parents and cover my face. I dont have any in person friends at all. I like talking to people but I cant find a way to talk to them. I want to make friends and be outgoing but something in me stops me. I cant even order at a drive through for fast food restaurants or order in person. I also find it uncomfortable going shopping because I'm scared people will judge me for what I buy. In grocery stores or the mall, anywhere really. In gym class I would always not like participating or playing sports because I was scared people would judge me. After gym days I would go to my room to cry because sometimes the gym teacher would call me out or kids would talk about me. I remember playing volleyball and the Ball flew towards me yet I didnt move at all. I didnt flinch or anything. I just let the ball hit me. When I moved to the U.S. I didn't like saying "here" for roll call because I had an accent and the kids would laugh at me. I always get asked to speak louder because I speak too quiet. In a vacation this summer I overheard my cousin say "its like talking with a wall" meaning me. Meaning I am like a wall. I want to make friends and talk to people but im like too scared. Idk why. Idk what this is, what causes it, or how to fix it. I mean I can talk to people online in videogames. I actually have quite a lot of friends online. I can talk to them and be myself but in person I cant.
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I completely understand! I'm the exact same way. Please know that you aren't the only one who feels this way.
Considering I also need help with the same things, and don't know how to deal with it, I can't really give you advice about it. But it's nice to know you aren't alone in what your feeling sometimes. It's hard always feeling like you will be judged when talking, and always having to worry about what to say.
Don't ever feel bad about yourself when they say "It's like talking to a wall". Your cousin clearly needs to learn how to have respect.
I have never related so much to someone on here to be honest. I also only have friends in video games, and I know how it feels like you can actually be yourself in them. I started playing this game called Animal Jam when I was only 8, and never stopped, because I actually felt like I belonged somewhere, where social anxiety wasn't an issue.
Also, who cares if you have an accent? When I meet someone with an accent, I always wish I had one, because they sound nice! People who're making fun of you just aren't happy with themselves, and that has nothing to do with you.
I'm sorry that I can't say how to fix this, but I can offer support and encouragement. Just letting you know you're perfect the way you are, and there's nothing wrong with you. There is however, something wrong with the people putting you down about your shyness. Don't let them get to you, and keep your head held high!
In time you will realize that there's people out there that won't judge you for being quiet or shy, and they'll like you as you are.
ReplyBeautiful advice.
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ReplyI loved Animal Jam as well. Thank you for this advice.
ReplyWhy don't you start going out alone,for walk. Or meet your cousins. If you feel shy and low. You must try to talk in front of mirror it builds your confidence. Watch motivating videos ,just try to find something you want to do ...talk to your parents about this ,they might help you. Don't stay inside room and be sad. Better go alone and walk ,eat and enjoy yourself ...that will help you and you can make new friends and have interaction ...try it and stay safe good luck stranger ....
Replyi also deal with this, and what i have learned to do is pretend, i pretend that nothing is bothering me and kind of copy others mannerisms. i think it helps me blend in and not look out of place. i know it is uncomfortable, but i'm sure with some practice you can do it, if not thats okay. proud of you for trying :)
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