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Please help me my boyfriend is depressed I’m surely convinced by the way he acts for the first time I saw tears fall from his eyes when were otp and he tries to hold it in he won’t talk to me and I’ve tried to get him to go onto this website and let it out or talk to someone but he wont now I feel like a terrible girlfriend because I can’t hug him or help him in other ways it hurts a lot to see him cry, he talks about death and stuff but he laughs it off. I really wanna help him. Please help me.
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You can just simply listen and be a good enough girlfriend, don't abuse yourself when trying to heal someone. I have your boyfriend's traits, I sometimes tell my girlfriend depressive things when I feel existentially horrible for unclear reasons. I made jokes about death, abyss, and suicide to the point when I just burst into this uncanny pattern of laughs and cries. And she would patiently embrace me by listening because she somehow understands my depressive pattern. The way she loves me has motivated me to keep trying my best in life, work harder for her, and be a more gentle person. You can just simply listen and be a good enough girlfriend and don't abuse yourself when trying to heal someone.
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ReplyI would give a shot to ask about some of his positive memories, and keep talking about them until would be possible to ask what he would like to do or if he would like to do some of those positive things again so then hopefully start to do those things... I could think that is good idea to keep him occupied by sth (no matter what it is), so he would not have time to feel sorrow
ReplyHonestly in these situations, there's not really much you can do
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