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Hey Mom,
I know I am your only child and that you waited for me for a long time... When I was little I was always in the spotlight and did everything I could to make you proud of me. Today I am a 23 year old lady that is getting married next year... Still i feel like i am being treated like a little girl that has to be this perfect picture for the family. I am frightened to do anything that you will disapprove of. I am too scared because you always guilt trip me... Telling me that i don't love you and that I am selfish and that when i get married and leave the house, you have no purpose in the world anymore.... I dont want to be in this position anymore. I want to go to visit my friends with my finance and sleep over at their house because we are having a good time. I want to go and visit my fiance and his parents and sleep over because it is a far trip back home. But I know that if I do that you will be angry at me and tell me what a disappointment I am and how you expected better from me and how I know this is not something you or my Dad approve of. I am having anxiety around my freedom because I am too scared to take the leap. I wish that I could be brave enough to just do it.... And I keep telling myself that it is not that big of a deal but it is going to be a huge problem and I am going to get the silent treatment for a while and I am going to get sarcastic comments and I am not sure of I am up for that. I feel like no one is on my side when I am at home. You say you do it to protect me and because you are worried about me and that you love me so very much. I just wish you'd understand what fear and anxiety you are creating for me. I am really sad.... Please let me be a 23 year old... I am responsible enough.
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Honey…if I was in your shoes, I’d be cutting this person off. What she is doing is emotional abuse, and I know that’s difficult to get your head around when it’s a family member you want to be close with.
I already decided that if I ever got married, out of my entire extended family, only 7-9 people would be attending the wedding.
It’s not your fault, she’s a person and she has problems that should’ve been worked through in therapy long ago. I’m saying this from experience.
Do whatever you want, but personally I’m doing so much better now that I don’t care what those kind of people think. If they don’t value you, they don’t deserve the privilege of being part of your life.
ReplyHey there. Thanks for your comment. Today I went up to my parents and told them that I will be spending Saturday night at my fiancé's house with his parents and they flipped out and told me that I know that they do not approve of sleeping over at his place and that they are disappointed that I cannot contain myself and that she can't believe that I am like this and that this was not the path she wanted for me and so forth. I didn't reply to any of these comments because for the first time today... I did something for me... I told them that they'll know where I am and that I am safe. That is still not enough. Apparently I also don't have morals anymore... Wow
I am proud of myself though
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