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I am a self employed painter decorator and recently I've started advertising to bring painters on to help with the workload.
One in particular was to strip a whole house of wallpaper. I had him lined up with further work so he knew he was in my good books. But after telling me he was finished the place was a mess. He did not lay sheets so paper was stuck to wooden flooring, patches of paper were still on the wall and the client had called to tell me about this before I got to see the work.
The worst part is I had paid him when he was just about finished (for simplicity sake since he was to come back to do painting and I had my own job to work on).
I told him about this and he had to come back to clean it but said he had another job lined up. So I told him he was chucked and how bad a job he did. He proceeded to tell me I was dodgy because I paid in cash, didn't wear overalls (even though I wasn't working just visiting).
I feel humiliated, frustrated at the both of us. I know I shouldn't have paid until the job was completed but I decided to put trust in someone I thought would be staying on and my last painter was as loyal a worker as you could get.
I posted his CV, application and result of his handy work on social media but decided to take it down after posting on Reddit (my next biggest mistake) and receiving unsympathetic comments about subcontracting so I could make money doing nothing.
It has been several days and it still frustrates me. It distracts me from my sound day to day activities and being able to enjoy myself. I understand this is a learning curb for me when exploring hiring etc. I enjoy what I do and more than happy to be solo but I thought bringing people on would be a good opportunity. I have insecurities about my work; being a solo tradesmen, how my work holds up compared to others etc so this is a hard blow for me.
I'm sure I'll be fine and can look back on it but all I want to (childishly) do is get back at this guy. Tarnish his work online, trick him into thinking he has a huge job (my parents have a big house) only for him to show up on the day, his month freed up for this job, only to be rejected due to evidence online proving his cowboy work.
This is the most childish and petty I've been in a long time and am ashamed for it.
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always check references, talk to previous clients, get everything in writing, never pay up front in full. being self employed is a learning curve for sure and you work harder for every dollar than a 9-5er, so those dollars are harder to lose. just remember when hiring, good work isn't cheap and cheap work isn't good. sending light, love and prosperity
ReplyOne of the best things you can do for your heart and mind is to forgive the person in order to release the hurt he caused you. Forgive him in your heart for sure, and whether or not you want to interact with him again is your decision. Forgiveness doesn't change what happened, it definitely doesn't make what he did right. But it's healing. Don't do the childish stuff, focus on being a person of respect and honor.
ReplyForgiveness by Matthew West is a great song for this
ReplyNot gonna patronize you with that forgiveness stuff, you’ve every right to be severely pissed off. He’s let you down and potentially exempted you from being recommended by the clients and gaining further work from that. You’re not childish either, your feelings are only natural given what happened. It’s not easy to fight to survive so of course you need to protect your reputation seriously, it’s not a game. People will argue with me on this final point but I think forgiving someone lets them off the hook and in that way they then don’t learn not to repeat the harm. There are other ways to ‘heal’ yourself from this with out forgiving arsehole behavior
ReplyKarma will get him so forget him.
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